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Why hasn't he called for two days? Helllppp!


Question Posted Monday April 26 2010, 8:11 pm

So, for those that didn't read my previous question, it might be a good idea.
But basically, I dated this guy two years ago. I was 16 going on 17 and he was 17 just turning 18. We had a good relationship. Dated 6-7 months. I don't know if I loved him or not..but I definitely had strong feelings for him.

So, I broke up with him because lack of communication and we were fighting basically for three weeks. And afterwards, I told him how I shouldn't have made such a rash decision and I told him how I felt...three times since we've broken up. And three times I've been rejected or given bullshit answers.

ANYWAYS, that's the short story and like I said, reading my previous question would be a good thing. :) AND, fyi, he was a great boyfriend, not controlling or anything, we had a great relationship except the last three weeks of it.

SO, last week, he messaged me after not talking to me for well over 6 months. He came over. We were wrestling/flirting/tickling eachother. We made out and I had butterflies in my stomach. I stopped in the middle and asked him why he kissed me (which I didn't mind at all) and he said that he still had feelings for me and that he's been wanting to kiss me since the last time he saw me (which was the last time I told him I still had feelings for him...which I got rejected...again because he was getting over his psychotic ex-girlfriend).

So then, we kept talking all last week and I invited him over to my house this past Saturday night. I waited at my house for him to come over, and finally I messaged him around 9pm to see what he was doing and he said he was an hour away and forgot to tell me that. Btw, I'm now 19 and he's 20.

He ended up coming over around 10:30-11 Saturday night when he got home and we watched a movie, wrestled/tickled/flirted and we made out for hours. I loveee kissing that boy.
But that was Saturday night. He hasn't text me at all & I don't know why.

I haven't told him how I felt, but I'm sure it's pretty obvious. And he usually texts me everyday as of lately just to see how my day is going, which I like the fact that he does that. The only time that I have text him first is the time that he was supposed to come over and I said "Hey, what's up?"

I haven't text him at all, and I don't want to. Since he's the one who approached me this time around, I want to make it a challenge for him. He needs to fight for what he wants. I'm already putting my heart out there to see what happens, but I'm being careful with it. I don't trust him with it because the last few times I have been rejected by him, so it's weird that he's been doing this. But, I don't understand why he hasn't text me.

We are not virgins and we didn't lose our virginities to eachother, we have both dated other people. He is the boy that has always had that soft spot in my heart. I'm playing hard-to-get but I'm not being a total bitch about it either.

And also, he didn't have any classes today, or work. UGH. And I don't expect him to jump into a relationship...although it's been like 6 months since his ex-girlfriend. I haven't mentioned anything about a relationship. And I definitely haven't told him how I feel...but we've made out so it's not like I'm not giving him a chance. So what the hell is going on!?!

SO, why do you think he hasn't called/text me?


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Additional info, added Monday April 26 2010, 10:21 pm:
And, I was on facebook just a few minutes ago talking to my friend.
I decided to see who else was on. And he's been on long enough to be 'idle'.

So he can get on facebook... but won't call/text me after we made out Saturday night?
I don't think he's out to get a piece of ass, but I'm having my doubts now. He's too nice of a guy but anyways.
Wtf. Really?
.

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Faith42 answered Wednesday April 28 2010, 4:26 pm:
Well to me it seems that he has feelings for you. Why he isn't texting you I'm not sure. Guys are always busy and they like playing games with us. Perhaps he is sorting out his feelings, maybe he has a girl friend you never know? He doesn't seem very trustworthy but you care about him he means a lot to you. Don't give up on him just yet, but maybe messaging him or calling him would be the best. Ask, him why he hasn't tried/or haven't had time to contact you. You don't just make out with a person and ignore them? Very childesh and you guys are adults. So, he needs to realize his feelings, and tell you about them and not lead you on. Give it a try
I hope I helped.
Emily <3

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OhMyLucyDarling answered Tuesday April 27 2010, 12:29 am:
There could be a number of reasons, However keep in mind that it has been quite awhile since you two have dated. Honestly, It sounds like he is trying to stroke your ego but I could be wrong. It's the fact that he hasn't text you in two days that raise questioning to whether he is playing games with you or not. Do you know if he has a girlfriend?...Do you know if maybe he likes someone else too? Are you sure he is not still in contact with his ex? If you are around him I would be careful not to fall to hard, Good for you make him work for it. At least if you make him work you will have a better idea to whether he is really into you or not. Sometimes to get answers out of people you need to study them. Does he seem like a bull shitter?..Also, Despite someone being "nice" people change everyday believe it or not not everyone stays the same after a few months or even a few years. However, I think you may have answered your own question at the very end... :/

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