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Are my feelings normal?
Hi Guys
I'm feeling pretty upset right now, I mean me and my boyfriend broke up a couple of weeks back & i'm still feeling quite hurt. He's the first boyfriend who I REALLY cared about & didn't want to lose. Whenever I have dated anyone else I have never been so interested & wanted to make the relationship work, but with this guy it was really different. We broke up simply because he felt that the relationship was not going anywhere. I disagreed & he knew I was upset about us breaking up, however he said he wanted to remain friends which I really didn't want because I know it would hurt me too much. We only dated for 3 months, but we were on and off for about 6 months before that due to his "Lack of commitment" as one may call it. Sorry for this being so long, but basically I know I have accepted the break up, and I really do want him to be happy whether it's with me or not - but I can't bring myself to date anyone else and i'm scared I never will. In the 6 months we were "on and off" we were "off" for quite a while and I went on a few dates but it never felt right to me, I didn't look forward to the dates and I weren't interested in the guys. I have the same situation now - there are 2/3 guys who have shown interest in me yet I can't bring myself to go on a date with them as much as I want to? It has become quite annoying because I would love to be able to move on but I just can't. Has anyone else ever felt the same way? I don't know how to describe how I am feeling - but it comes off quite annoying when guys ask me out.
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It's been a few weeks, hardly enough time to worry about not feeling like you can ever dating again. It almost always feels like something is impossible (telling someone you like them, kissing someone, giving a speech, completing a project), until all of a sudden, it IS possible.
That is just the way it works when you are dealing with intense emotions, they are your whole reality, until the day comes when they aren't anymore.
So, it's perfectly normal. Completely annoying, but perfectly normal. And even better that you are dealing with this in a smart and honest way. You aren't forcing yourself to pretend you can be friends, and you aren't picking up with new guys when you aren't really feeling it.
Keep being true to yourself, and giving yourself some more time. If you keep being sincere about what you are feeling and trying to move forward, and you'll get through the process.
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