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I dont understand why men find foreign women, like asian, latin, or easter european women better wives? Is it truly because they are submissive, and men like that? I always thought that for men, a strong, independent woman that can take care of herself is most attractive so why is it that so many men say that they want to marry women from foreign countries because they are better wives, and dont nag you, and cook and clean and take care of children, etc etc. Honestly I am from Eastern Europe, and Ive lived in the US for 9 years and I adopted some of the ideals of equality from here, but my boyfriend still says that he loves me because I am not like those american girls that are egotistical and feminist. But I hate that because it makes me feel like hes going to want me to do everything for him like cook, clean etc, and although I dont mind doing that stuff per say, I dont want to be alone in doing it I want it to be 50/50 or at least 40/60 you know? Why do men like women that are submissive???
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Americans are arrogant. Any decently self aware and intelligent member of our country will spend ten minutes in another country and figure that out. We've been taught to be from a very young age, and living in the country that's set the pace for most of the civilized world for decades kind of makes alot of people feel justified in it.
I will say, that there are men who want a wife-servant and men who want a partner in every culture, religion, and country of the world. You just got a small fish you need to throw back.
Foreign women are exotic. Foreigners in general are exotic. That goes for all countries, if you take two people of relatively similar personalities, backgrounds, etc, and give one a foreign accent to the person who's picking there's a pretty good chance that person will be the "more attractive"
Hell, I'll admit it, British chick's get me going just by talking. Irish chicks are worse, I've got some Irish in me and short drunken red haired women are the most fun you'll ever have. Worth going bi over, but that's a personal opinion.
American's in general have a huge sense of entitlement to alot of things. If you're the kind of person who doesn't really like or agree with mainstream culture, someone from a foreign country and culture who wasn't raised the way you were can be refreshing if you still happen to have some common ground and chemistry.
Your boyfriend sucks. It happens sometimes. Get rid of him, keep looking. There are good American guys out there, same as any other country. If you're an 18 year old exchange student, there will be plenty more in college who'll be plenty interested.
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You can't say 'Men like women who are submissive' anymore than you can say 'Men like brunettes'. Some men do like brunettes, and even still, they might fall in love with and marry a blonde. There are definitely stereotypes about 'foreign' women, but they are just stereotypes. They are often untrue, and almost always cruel and stupid.
I wouldn't obsess over this if I were you. If you are concerned about how your boyfriend sees your life together, ASK him. Think about things you'd like to do independently. Think about things you'd expect your partner to do. How does he think chores should be divided? Who helps the kids with their home work? Is it okay for a wife to work? Go back to school? Have a 'ladies' night out? Have male friends?
You might also want to gently point out that you don't like the word 'feminist' being used as a put-down because, like many American girls, you believe in equality between the sexes. Maybe being a wife and mother is an important life goal for you, but let him know you don�t believe that makes you �submissive�, if that is the life you want, you feel like you can go after it.
I think you might be getting a little bit too worried about something he said that was just careless, but it is always good to have a serious talk with your partner about what you want and what you believe, so, let him know what�s on your mind.
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He's not necessarily saying he wants you to be submissive. The idea of feminism has been twisted and warped. While most men, including myself, are all for equal rights and equal pay and fairness and respect, feminism from the point of view of males has largely just developed into an anti-male culture. That's not real feminism, but that's the connotation that the word has taken on.
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