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I have just been placed in the custody of the state and am now living in a residential facility. I just got out of a mental institution that is only 20 mins away from my sister. I am now about 2 hours away. She had the opportunity to see me before I left but chose not to! I don't understand what I did! She visited me on several occasions there and I offered to help her in any way I possibly could. Its not my fault that my mom and I don't get along and she knew that. Should I just move on and leave everyone behind to try to start a new life or do I ask her what is wrong?
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Not fully knowing your situation it is hard to advice you what to do. The best advice I feel I can offer you is the advice I gave myself when I finally realized and was diagnosed with severe depression.
While in my initial treatment I realized that I had been depressed for a lot longer than I then knew. The episode that brought me to where I was was simply the culmination of depressive episodes that dated back many years. During treatment I came to realize I had hurt many people, not just my wife and son, but others as well. My therapist and I spoke at length about this but no clear cut answer as to how to make amends to those I had hurt was found. Then I started to talk with my brother in-law, a 20 year member of AA and a recovering alcoholic. Like an alcoholic I will always be in some form of recovery for my depression and will have to work at it daily to keep from falling back. It was when I realized this that I thought of the AA 12 step program.
The 12 step program is almost a life style that helps the recovering alcoholic stay in recovery. It also has steps that include what you are looking for. The program includes steps of who and how to apologize to and how to move on. I found the 12 step program on the web and adopted those steps that fit the situation I was in.
You are not going to be able to reunite with everyone in your family as the hurt or misdeed or whatever has happened runs to deep. I found out some members of my family were clueless as to the root cause of my depression and actually ended up apologizing to me for their ignorance in not coming to my aid. Those members of my family and I have become closer.
My suggestion to you is look at the 12 step program. See if you can adopt any or all of it as you work to recover from whatever caused the rift between you and your family and your hospitalization. Adoption of any of the steps as I see it can only help not hurt as you work to get better.
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