I have a problem. I have always wanted abest friend that will be with m everywhere, and with me through everything. I keep sitting with new people that look like they are the perfect one for me!....dont laugh. after a while, they fade away, and i just want one that would want me as a friend as bad as i would want them :( one that wouldnt want anyone but me to hang out with and i just dont see that happening. im not unnormal or unnatractive, i just want a friend, and dont know what to do. help me! i am a girl....
I understand your hurt and frustration. In fact, I still experience it because my bff died, and she cannot be replaced.
Instead of looking for just ONE friend, I would suggest seeking a group of friends. First discover what your strengths. Do you sing well, paint, write poetry, love math or science, playing sport or watching sports? Then there is likely a group formed that shares that interest. Join that group and you will instantly have something in common with several people.
I am sure you have several interests, so you can join several groups or clubs. Eventually, you will find that someone will gravitate toward you, especially when you do not seem so eager.
Just remember that although you meet several people, and really want a bff, it doesn't that you allow people to treat you any kind of way. Hold your standards high and know what you expect in a friend beforehand.
solariagirl94 answered Tuesday April 6 2010, 5:46 pm: I've been in your shoes for 9 years.But it happened when I least expected it.I know this may sound harsh,and I'm really sorry if it does,but there's nothing you can do about it.Oh and one more thing:that person will also need more friends,I have a best friend who I'm attached to in a way you'd want someone to be attached to you...but he has other friends too,he can't be just with me.Regardless,he's always there for me.The point is,it doesn't matter if your best friend that you want to have will have a ton of others to hang out with...what matters is that he puts you above all of them.Just stay who you are,so that person will love you for you,and be your bff because of your personality and qualities,even flaws.Do something you like to cheer up and be patient.You know what they say,patience is a virtue! ;)
Hope I helped you somehow.
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