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Becoming parents
Hi :) I'm 19 and my fiance is 22. We have been trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant for about 9 months now. My gynecologist said I'm not ovulating at all and that is why we haven't conceived. We want so badly to be parents, but I just don't see any way that it can happen for us. I thought about adopting, but I wholeheartedly doubt anyone would take us seriously and choose us as we are so young. We don't know anyone, friends or family, who is pregnant and considering adoption. We don't really want to pursue fertility treatments, either. We aren't rich, but we have more than enough money to support a few children, and we live in an apartment.
Is there any hope for us? How can we become parents?
Thank you for reading.
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What's your rush? You've got your whole life to make/adopt babies!
Yes, ideally you'd be able to procreate at the drop of a hat when you want to. Unfortunately, you don't have the same options as some couples.
You may have issues with your age. I would wait until you are in your 20s at the very earliest, if not a little later. Fortunately for you guys, you do have your youth, which will count in your favour a few years down the road. I know people in their mid 40s who want to adopt babies and are being turned down for being too old.
Also, they won't want to adopt out to unmarried parents. Once you guys have had the wedding (I'm assuming it's coming soon?) you'll be in a much better situation to adopt.
Remember that you'll need to be flexible. How would you feel about fostering children for a while before adopting? Or adopting outside your race or preferred age bracket? These are questions you'll probably be asked to determine how badly you want to be a parent.
That being said, I don't see any harm in talking to an adoption counselor. They may be able to give you more complete knowledge, or even tell you that you're perfect candidates now! Either way, you'll know what you need to do in order to become parents.
Another option; do you have any friends who have already given birth and might consider being a surrogate? You might look into that as well.
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