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Right or wrong?
Most guys don't want you to come crawling back to them right? because my boyfriend just VERY recently broke up with me and hasn't talked to me.I plan on not contacting him,changing my relationship status,changing my facebook picture,and making my status's look like im moving on because I know he will see them.I want him back more than anything.Am I doing the right thing by pretty much not acknowledging him? Usually I end up begging and repeatedly contacting and it has NEVER EVER worked.advice?
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I really agree wtih all the other advice givers... I've begged my ex before to get back with me. And I really believe to this day that it spoiled any chance we had to rekindle... And I give you two thumbs up because you're doing the right thing.. It's the mans job to chase and presue... And it will seem to him that you're moving on and maybe that will make you more desireable to him.
Alot of girls should be reading this... Because this is some must no info. I have a friend that can't seem to stop chasing a guy and no matter what I say she would not listen... And that's a sad case in its self... But I believe that you're really doing the right thing... The best of luck to you...
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from experience i have learned that when a guy breaks up with a girl , if the girl comes back and starts begging it pushes the guy away . however , many of my guy friends have told me that when they break up with a girl and the girl shows like she is not bothered it makes them want her back even more . so far what you are doing sounds exactly like what any guy wants you to do , according to many guys i have talked to and from personal experience . i have also begged and cried in my day , but i have also just ignored it and thats what usualy works best .
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Well yeah, begging doesn't work.
However, lying, faking and bullshit doesn't work either.
Change your relationship status, and picture. Don't contact him. Those things make sense. Those are honest. You are broken up after all! Contact him if you have something to say, or that you feel you really have to share. Contact him if you want to be friends.
Other than that though, try not to worry about what he thinks or how he'll respond to your behaviour. The best thing you could possibly do is block him all together on things like Facebook, and rely on direct, private communications when you need it.
Until you give up on making him take you back, anything you do will be destructive. As long as you sit there thinking "Will this make him take me back!?" you're gonna look like a fool and probably end up disappointed.
Let that go. Ignore those thoughts when they creep up, or pound them into the ground.
He dumped you. He doesn't want to be with right now. That might change, but it probably won’t. His mind changing about that has very little to do with you or what you do. It's all about what he feels and wants inside himself. Your behaviour will only be used in his head to reinforce what he already wants... If he wants to be with you, he'll probably speak up, if he doesn't, you're faking moving on will probably only make him feel less guilty about the break up.
The very best thing you can do is be honest, but also respectful of his choice. It's a tough line to walk, but it makes you a better person when you can. It also means that no matter if get together or not, you can walk away with clean hands.
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You are totally right. Guys don't respect you if you beg and bother them.
What I generally recommend is that you send ONE (and only one!!) text/email/fb message or whatever telling him calmly and maturely that you are sorry that the relationship is over and that if he wants to contact you in the future, you would be willing to talk about working on whatever went wrong. Then give him up! Don't be expecting anything back.
What this does is it lets the guy know that if he decides he's made a mistake, you are still approachable. At the same time, it allows you to say, "I did my best," and move on.
Do go ahead and change facebook and anything else related--not so much that HE sees you are moving on, but to encourage YOURSELF to really move on. Don't expect to get back with a guy; on-and-off again relationships are generally difficult and filled with heartache. You'll find someone else, don't worry.
Good luck and much love!
~TD
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Guys hate hate hate clingy girls that beg for their forgiveness and frankly it is very pathetic and degrading to the woman and women everywhere if you ask me. As for advice, I would do evrything you said, go out have fun, meet some guys, and just be single. If he can't realize what he has lost then he really seriously isn't worth the time of day :)
Hope I Helped.
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