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How can i be closer to someone who is distant and reserved?
i have a friend and shes friendly and a nice girl, but the thing is something is about her is distant and reserved. She seems to block people in a way but i really dont know what it is, but sometimes its hard for me to approach her does she have trust issues?
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Exotica is exactly right. This young woman needs a confidante, a close friend to help her move forward in her personal growth and face any issues she may be having in other areas of her life, but she has to invite you in first.
You might show her that you care by mentioning a similar experience, guessing trust at this point, it is called mirroring and if she sees you as a little bit vulnerable and needing a friend as well, you might get inside her world faster. Just let her know that we all have things we have to face, and many of them are things we would rather not talk about, but that you are there for her when she needs to talk. You might also recommend this anonymous website for her, or to my personal email as well LPDearSusie@gmail.com, just to have someone "invisible" to talk it through with.
Good luck, and kudos to you for being such a good friend!
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I am exactly like your friend. She does have trust issues. She's probably been hurt in the past. Instead of letting there be a possibility of getting hurt or abandoned, she pushes everyone away. Try taking a day away from everybody and hang out with her. Just the two of you. Maybe if you open up to her she'll open up aswell. Be patient and give her time to get to know you better. Good Luck [:
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