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hook up buddy
I'm kind of in a rut. I haven't been in a relationship in over a year, and I'm the kinda girl that is constantly in one, so for me this is very strange and lonely. I'm in college, and I've had two pretty serious hook up buddies: the first took my virginity, and we quickly dissolved after that, and the second we've been hooking up since the middle of october, so quite a long time. This second one is a really big relationship kind of guy, he gets pretty serious: his longest was 3 years, and the shortest 9 months. And I'm kind of starting to like him a little, and sometimes we do act like we're in a relationship. And I've told him I think I like him, and it hasn't stopped him from hooking up with me, if anything it has improved how he is towards me (he's a big giant jerk with a big soft heart if you dig deep).
My question is, should I stick it out with him and see where things may lead? Or stop everything with him and just wait around for a relationship?
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Why don't you talk to him about it? Ask him if he wants to start a relationship with you or if he would ever be interested in one. After all, there's no point waiting for anything if he already knows he doesn't want that.
If he's interested, you two could try hanging out without any sexual contact. Go out dancing, go out to eat, or just sit down and talk to each other about whatever comes to mind. That will help you see if there's any connection between you other than sex.
If he says he's not interested in a relationship, you should probably move on and find someone else. If a serious relationship is what you want but not what he wants, there's no point staying with him. But you don't have to just wait around for a relationship. Be assertive! Go find that special guy, if you must. :) I hope things turn out well for you no matter what the two of you decide. Good luck!
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