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My boyfriend does not like to hold hands in public. He is not overly affectionate, or clingy, nor does he get jealous very easily.
All of these things are fine I dont normally mind, except the hand holding thing. I love holding hands, and in the 5 months we've been dating hes maybe held my hand twice.
It actually kind of bothers me because I almost feel like hes to ashamed of me to hold my hand.
How can I Change this? I dont want to order him to hold my hand that would just be ridiculous. Anything subtle I can do, or should I just leave it alone?
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A male perspective: Guys are not subtle. Ask him if it makes him uncomfortable and why. He may well have a good reason.
Tell him that it is one of those little things that means something to you, like how wonderful he is to you in some other way (cheesy perhaps, smile). You can promise him that you won't jump him in public, but you really would like to hold hands from time to time.
If he is not into it, however, you need to decide how important it is to you. If you two have a great relationship otherwise, this is a fairly small issue. If on the other hand, this sparks a strong negative reaction in him, you may have bigger issues to address.
If worse comes to worst, you could always put crazy glue on your hand......
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My boyfriend is also not into pda. At first I felt the same way like he was ashamed but then I realized it had nothing to do with me or how much he cared. He simply just doesn't like pda and it makes him really uncomfortable so I dropped it. I would suggest you leave it alone. That is just his preference and I'm sure you would rather him feel comfortable. Remind yourself that he is with you because he wants to be and cares. As long as he is affectionate when you two are alone then nothing is wrong. Sometimes we have to give up things we enjoy doing to make our significant other more comfortable.
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