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my best friend likes a guy who likes me, and isn't interested in her...
15/f
my best friend "maggie" likes this guy, "jason". maggie is an amazing girl, but she is awful with guys. she changes her mind constantly. one day, she'll love a guy, she'll get him to go for her, then she'll decide she doesn't feel the same way about them. that's what she's been like for as long as i know her, and she has a whole lot of guys who hate her. this guy jason is really hot, and i talked to him a little bit in the beginning of the school year, and we have a class together. we're friends. so maggie decides she likes him, just when jason and i start to really talk and be good friends. this was about 2 weeks ago. it kind of made me mad, bc it was completely out of the blue. but whatever. i was talking to jason a few nights ago, and i asked him what he thought of maggie. he said 'ew, no, never! sorry, but i just could never see it happening. she's not my type.' so i asked him what his type was, and he perfectly described me, down to my hair and eye color and the sport i play. i asked him if he had something he wanted to tell me, and he said 'yeah, i gotta crush on you, i have for a while.' now i really don't know what to do, bc jason is a really great guy. i'm thinking maggie's gonna change her mind in a little bit anyway, and jason's not gonna ask me out bc he knows my best friend likes him and he cares about me and doesnt want to mess anything up for me and maggie. but should i tell her that he likes me, and i kinda like him? or should i tell her that he's not interested before she wastes her time or makes a fool of herself? and if i do that, and something happens with me and jason in the future, won't i look like a massive bitch? my conscience tells me to forget about jason and ignore him for now, but what happens when maggie changes her mind about him, like i know she will? would it still be wrong to like jason? help!
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You should definitely go for him. If he's in to you, and you're in to him, then you shouldn't let anything get in your way. But on the other hand, you're like me. You always think about other peoples feelings first, instead of your own. But if he really makes you happy, you shouldn't hide it from her. I mean, best friends are supposed to tell eachother everything correct? And even if it does hurt her, there's plenty of guys out there. And also, she'll get over it. And atleast you're enough of a friend to tell her how you feel.
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I know the type of girl you are talking about.
Go for it. If that is the way she is don't let her ruin it for you. If "Jason" really likes you then he wont care about her one day crush on him. She seems to want to take your happiness away and that's not what friends do. I believe she is insecure about herself and she doesn't know what she wants. It seems like she wants to take everything away from you because she doesn't like to see you happy. She's jealous. It wont be wrong to like "Jason" he likes you too. I say go for it and forget about her because she doesn't really like him anyways she is only "liking" him now so he can leave and you both will be single. she seems to not like change. just forget about her little moments and go for it. It seems you two are really hitting it off. I know girls like her and they never win in the end. Good luck and go for it!! ;) who knows what might happen ;)
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