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drunken hook-up with ex-boyfriend
16/f.
The other night I was at a party and so was my ex-boyfriend. We'd hardly seen each other in a year but he's still very important to me and I care about him very much (was also my first love). Anyway, although we basically never speak anymore, we were both really drunk and upset about different things, & we were on our own & having a heart-to-heart, then we both started crying and were comforting each other. Then just suddenly we started making out & had our hands all over each other etc. It was mutual, neither one of us leaped on the other or anything.
After a while, we realised what we were doing and he told me to go. A friend of ours was stirring things up and trying to convince the other that the other was still in love with them.
I think we drunkenly agreed that it was just a drunken mistake but I'm not sure. I want to talk to him because I really care about him and want for us to be friends again but I think it's all messed up and awkward now.
So my question is, should I message him explaining that it was just a drunken thing and I don't have any feelings for him, despite what the other friend was saying, so it won't be awkward? Or is that making too big a deal out of it? And if I should, should I also say that I'd like it if we could be friends and that I'm here if he wants to talk, or is that a bit inappropriate and taking it too far?
I'd really appreciate your help, thanks x
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I'm pretty sure he knows the situation. I think bringing it up again, by text message anyway, isn't a good idea. I don't know if you've had it happen before, but text messages can be misinterpreted easily.
If you want to text and see if he wants to get together to talk about what happened, go for it.
I think that would probably give it more importance than you want it to though. Unless you are wanting to have a relationship.
If you are just interested in friendship, I think a text saying you are always available as a friend, should he want to talk would be the most appropriate message to send. He will respond or he won't.
It will probably be awkward meeting no matter what you do. It won't last long.
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I would just be very laid-back about the situation. If you're set on messageing him, (which it sounds like you really want to) then be cool and sweet about it. Even joke around a little, if you want. Say something like "I hope things are okay between us, and there won't be any weird awkwardness = since the other night was a littlee crazy. I just wanted you to know I'm here if you ever want to talk or whatever." It lets him know you're not being weird/awkward and opens the door for him. If he does respond, that's great. Be a friend and be cool about it all. If he doesn't, atleast you made the decent move to explain your feelings a bit. Just let it go and don't try and message him again.
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