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Why do birthdays suck so bad?
Today is my 16th birthday and its just disappointing. I dont like telling people its my birthday cause then they'll be like "oh, happy birthday!" I mean even if they didnt know its not like its going to make me feel better because if you didn't say it after I just told you its my bday then it would be awkward. It only feels good when you don't tell people, and they remember. That feels really good. Or maybe I'd say it in advance.. or they look at my facebook if they really give 2 shits about me for when my birthday is. I mean I'd go above and beyond for people for their birthdays.. like I always make birthdays a big deal and have planned a surprise party for my mom's 40, among other people like my other family members. like i make a big deal out of it. and i would with friends given i was close enough with someone to even be invited to a birthday party (haven't been to a legit birthday party since i was like 10. i've been to 2 applebees parties last year though but i dont think they really count since i wasnt REALLY friends w/ them and it was really informal). I I mean maybe its just because I dont have any real close friends right now. Hate that. If I did and their parents wouldnt let them plan a party I'd go above and beyond to plan one for them and everything. Or get them a gift they'd really like. A thoughtful one. I dont know.. but birthdays always end up being one of the worst days of the year. usually even when i have parties. i can remember them sucking starting from age 8 when i had to clean my room. age 9, even though i had a party, i was upset over not being 8 cause 8 is my favorite number. age 10 i felt upset cause i thought double digits meant I was becoming "old". age 11-15 i cant remember distinctively but they all were sucky days too. today was a sucky day as well.. i mean its not like i had high expectations for my birthday today but i just feel a bit sad that i dont have close friends to make the day great. and that the day just has been sucking. im planning on having a half birthday to celebrate being 16 over the summer though.. hopefully i have good friends by then and that bday ends up being the best bday party ive ever had. only family makes it worthwhile.. and the people who comment on my facebook with a greeting. but then again i hope for that to happen every year on my regular birthday :/. maybe half birthdays are the proper way to go? I'll see.
When I have kids I definitely know I'll be one of those parents to make a big deal about every holiday. Even holidays that are in different parts of the world, if I feel like it. Like Girl's Day in Japan (given that I have girls. or i'll just go crazy shopping w/ my future husband lol)
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Firstly, I guess its a matter of how perfect a birthday seems to have to be. Nothing is ever perfect, even those things that we feel need to be... like your first kiss or your senior prom.
You can picture it perfect, but i dont think life is a perfect fairytale, and we need to accept it like that. My birthdays often suck, plans for perfect dates get messed up over stupid things like traffic, the guy you like dont feel the same...
Im just saying, that life is full of dissapointment and it brings us down because we would like it perfect. All we can do is embrace the better things, like the family that show they care on your birthday and find our happiness in all that we can. You will see good things if you try.
Secondly, I wish i had better advice for you but i think it would be good to try connect with people. (Have your own party!) You'll make a great friend so dont be shy. Try make some new friends and be interested in their lives and how they are, people like people that care.
I understand your frustration, cause the same happened with my birthday last year
i hope im helping at least a bit
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I know exactly what you mean. It's how you know the fakes from who truly care. I sometimes remove my wall on the day, or some ppl deactivate their fb for a little bit until their birthday passes, or don't put their birthday up.
Sometimes, it helps to reconnect with someone. You can be like, "Thanks! It's been a while. What's up?" or something.
And some people just have a bad memory. Or if you just met a person and they don't remember and they feel bad for asking you again, but they really do care, they just later got to know you better..
i hope you have a great sixteen. with people who really matter. you can only hope that they care as much about you in return as you do about them.
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