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ex girlfriend from 30 yrs ago
I received a e-mail on My Space page from a lady who wanted to be added to my friends list, so I did. After e mailing back in forth she asked I knew who she was. I didn't, after she gave me some hints I finally figured out she was my old gf from high school, 30 yrs ago. After a couple e mails she told me she just got out of an abusive marriage 5 months ago.The questions I have are , What do I do now?Why after all those yrs she looked for me? What is she looking for from me? How do I handle her after an abusive marriage? I've been single for 17yrs and must admit it sparked some old memories.
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Well i have to be honest i don't understand your situation, but well i think you have to talk to her calmly and help her out, give her some closer, it was just 5 months ago. After a few more months or when she starts showing she is comfortable around any men, start talking to her more then "just a friend" Make her feel more comfortable with you as in a relationship type if you were looking for that. Usually some abused people need closure after it happens, even five months, it's better to start now then later, because it can live with people for a long while. That's wha ti would think is the right thing to do, good luck.
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It could be that after finally getting out of a horrible relationship your friend is looking for the comfort and familiarity of past relationships. I'm sure her heart remembers your days together as a "safe" time in her life and she's looking to recapture a bit of that safety. Whatever the case may be, it might be fun to reminisce a bit over the email, and get to know this woman from your past once again. However, 5 months is not a long time to be out of a marriage, and an abusive one at that. She's vulnerable and probably a bit needy right now, so you need to keep that in mind. Getting romantically involved with someone who is just learning how to function outside of her abuser could be prickly. She'll have issues and she'll need time to heal. With that said, its not like you're headed to the altar tomorrow. I say keep in contact over the email and enjoy reconnecting with an old flame. Just tread lightly in matters of the heart until you get a better read on where she is mentally right now. Good luck!
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