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Female/17. (SORRY ITS LONG) So I have a problem, usually when I meet guys I to get to know them and become friends.Then it ends up them liking me. But I dont like them back that way. Then they get hurt when I tell them I just wanna be friends. Its happened quite alot too. I also havent had a bf in awhile and how else am I going to get one is if I dont get out and meet some guys, become friends with them and see if theres anything more. But everytime there hasnt been! Now there is this new guy i have only hung out with 3 times and he already told me he likes me, but so far I dont like like him back that way, he is nice and cool so far...I just feel like theres something wrong with me! I am gonna have to break his heart when it ends up me saying that i just wanna be friends. Dont you have to be somewhat attracted to a guy to have some feelings for him? I know its also very important for him to be a good person and all that stuff but its just hard. And I feel lost, advice would be awesome! thanks!!
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There's a couple of things going on here. #1 - what is it that motivates you to develop friendships with guys? Do you have female friends? Are the majority of your friends guys? If the answer to that last question is yes, you need to ask yourself what it is that makes it difficult to form relationships with other young women and why you gravitate toward friendships with young men. #2 - whatever your reasons, you're sending out mixed signals and guys that age aren't very good at reading signals. You most likely don't mean to, but your actions may be sending out the signal that you are looking for more than friendship. Spending lots of time alone with a guy will send out that signal, even if you're just "hanging out". The healthy thing to do here is to start concentrating on female friends for a while. I like that you feel you should get to know a guy before you date him. That is really smart and mature, but keep in mind that getting to know someone and leading them on are two different things. Focus on other things right now. Meeting a guy you like will just come naturally and when you meet a guy you like you'll know it. THEN you can spend time getting to know him better without the worry of him misinterpreting your affections. Good luck to you.
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maybe you shouldn't be rejecting everyone ... theres nothing wrong with you, rejection normal, but i you want to go out and meet guys and really get a bf you shouldn't reject everyone that started to like you, maybe you could give person a chance, you never know what would happen :)
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