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Worst Situation with a guy.
So Ive come to realize I'm in a nigtmare of a situation with a guy. For the last 3-4 years ive liked the same guy on and off,but mostly on. He liked me on and off as well but i liked him more than he liked me. We were young...about 14 and we had sex. I thought that meant he liked me(my ignorance) yet I didn't realize that he was just trying to get some action. He had many girlfriends and it hurt me to see him with them,but he would cheat on them with me so it made me think he liked me (again my ignorance). Then at a time when he didnt have a girlfriend he told me "im his girl and one day we will eventually go out" and then i hooked up with someone else and he got mad and got in a actual fist fight with the kid i hooked up with,so i figured he cared. During all this time,we never went out but we hooked up ALLL the time. (which was stupid of me :/ ) but then he just recently had a gf for 6 months and didn't speak a word to me then they brokeup and a week after they broke up,he started talking to me. And he's been trying to hookup with me and i gave in and hooked up with him because i missed him and i'm so mad that i did that.everytime we hangout i tell myself not to hookup with him and he ends up talking me into it. I just want him to gain respect for me and like me again .It's just so hard for me to blow him off and not hangout when he asks me to.but i'm determined to try ! what should i do? I just want him to know that i'm being serious and i dont want my feelings getting hurt by him anymore or i dont wanna talk to him at all,it's just so hard!
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He's a player, baby girl. That's all he is. I should know, I'm one too, and so is my boyfriend. Players don't respect the people they play, and there's nothing that will make them start.
The only reason my bf and I can date is because we both know the game and keep tabs on each otehr... and we fell in love. Love is weird like that...
Anyway... stop talking to him. I know it hurts and it sucks and he's a real jerk for being the way he is, but he's not going to respect you, and he's not going to love you, and he will keep hurting you.
Get out while you can or he'll break you. I guarantee it.
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The only thing to be serious about at this point, is to be seriously done with him.
Your last instinct, to not talk to him at all, is bang on. As hard as that might be, it's the only sensible plan you've got left.
After years of the same thing, you need to accept it's not going to change: He wants to hook up with you, he doesn't want to date you. If he wanted to date you, he is TOTALLY aware he could get that. He doesn't want you like that. He is getting what he wants, and you are getting misery.
He's using you. He probably has a lot of reasons in his own mind why that is okay, but he still using you and you are still letting yourself be used. Put an end to it for good, by just stop hanging out with him, and then, stop talking to him at all.
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