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Stuck on him till the end of time.
So this is probably going to be really long sorry! So in 8th grade I moved schools and I became really close friends with this guy(Let's call him S) So S and I got really close and he pretty much told me everything. I started to like him and for a while it seemed like he liked me too because he broke up with his girlfriend and called me and asked me what I thought about that and showed me what he wrote to her and stuff and if you know him you'd know he has trust issues and stuff. So then after a while one of his immediate family members died and he was crushed. It was like he didn't want to live anymore but he leaned on me for support and I tried to help him through it. Afterwards we got really close and I felt like he was in love with me now. Like it was serious. Unfortunately the death affected him so much and he hated everyone in our school knowing so he moved to a public school and he changed a lot while he was there. He started blanking my calls and prank calling me. He wouldn't answer some of messages but when he was in a good mood we'd talk for four or five hours online or on the phone. I just noticed he didn't lean on me as much and he got really PROUD. Like his attitude was like that saying "My attitude is fuck it cause mafuckers love it." We tried to meet up once but he ended up standing me up and he didn't even tell me why he wasn't there and didn't apologize. He only said he was sorry when we talked about it after a while. Half a year after he moved I moved to another country and so we could only talk on weekends and through comments and stuff cuz of the time difference. At first he was saying stuff like "wow I really miss you. I can't imagine my life without you" but then the comments got shorted and less frequent and I noticed he'd read my messages but wouldn't reply. Every time I confronted him about the weakening of our relationship he'd make it seem like I was over reacting. So this summer I went back and when it was just me and him he acted like I was someone he was meeting for the first time. We didn't joke around and every time we hung out he tried to invite his friends over so we weren't alone. He just acted like I wasn't apart of his life anymore. I've tried to get over him but I'm in 11th grade now and I still can't get over him. every time I think about him I just cry and I listen to "our song" every night before I go to sleep. I actually CAN'T fall asleep if I don't listen to it. I tried deleting him and I've managed to stop talking to him but I still read all his status' and miss him so much. I feel so incomplete and I'm now suffering from depression that I'm trying to deal with. What should I do. I can't talk to him because I KNOW what he'd do cuz I tried (wrote a LONG letter to him about EVERYTHING and he never replyed) and he'll just ignore it. What should I do. How do I get him back? I'm not afraid to say I am DESPERATELY missing him and COMPLETELY TOTALLY NO GOING BACK In love with him and dedicated to him. He's not an asshole, he's just never going to get over that death in his family and he's just trying to forget about it and he's hanging around with all these arrogant stupid people in public school and he tells me he doesn't even like them and that they annoy him. He's going to a REALLY GHETTO public school where people get fucked up and shit and he's really good at Karate and shit. HELP I feel like I can't function without just being friends with him... I don't even want to be his gf I just want my bestfriend back. :(
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Well it seems like he is embarrassed of the times he confided in you and he also doesn't want to think about them because he relates them all with the time of death. He's cocky because he doesn't want to break down again like he did before and he wants you to think of him as a stronger man. When you don't see someone for a long time who you haven't had contact with he might act like he doesn't even know you. He has those good/bad memories of his head associated with you but he doesn't know how to bring them out. You need to cut him out of your life. You need to completely cut him out of your life and when you see him again act like nothing ever happened just completely ignore him and maybe just maybe he'll realize what a great friend you were and how much he wants to have those discussions with you and maybe he'll talk to you again. But you honestly need to move on and forget about it because one day when he is mature enough you can subtly bring up when you were such great friends and maybe he'll talk again.
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sounds to me youv done everything you can.I mean i know you really like this guy but hes trying to survive.when someone dies sometimes you never get over it.it changes you forever (speaking from experience) and it can either break you or it can make you a better person.
youv both grew up.youv both changed.you need to remember hes not that 8th grader anymore,hes not the one that needed you.hes now the guy trying to survive getting through a day in public school without getting into a fight etc.he might not be talking to you because you remind him of the past which hes trying to forget.right now the best you can do is leaving him because obviously thats what he wants.he hasnt forgot you and when hes ready hell come back.i know your hurting and you want him back but you cant make him come to you.hes changed hes different and hes not treating you the way you should be treated.give him his space,back off and if he wants you,if he misses you,if he needs you,hell come back.
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