Question Posted Thursday December 17 2009, 1:40 pm
this boy a have a huge crush on at school well i love him to be honest. were not really freidns bt were also not enimes. he knows i like him andits quite obvious that he doesnt feel the sameway back to me and he also has a girlfriend. but then somedays i will walk pas himin the coridoor and he will follow me with his eyes and look over my way, but then somedays he will just totaly ignor me. im just so confused and i wont to get over him and forget about him but i cant becasue i love him and its preety hard seems as we go to the same school. any help please ? ''/
First of all, you seem pretty bright. You recognize that he has a girlfriend and that he is aware that you like him, but he hasn't done anything to indicate that he is interested in you.
Most likely he is more self-aware now because he knows you like him and struggles with wanting to be pleasant and not leading you on, so he fumbles back and forth between staring at you and ignoring you.
Bottom line: he has a girlfriend and he doesn't want to leave her for you. And you know this.
And since it's impossible to be truly happy in a one-sided, unrequited relationship, you should continue to be pleasant, but leave him alone and find someone who can share a wonderful relationship with you!
deviango answered Thursday December 17 2009, 8:42 pm: I can see how that situation can be pretty confusing, and it's hard to try and give up one someone you love,but if you truly love him...let him go. It will be hard, but it's something you're really gonna have to try. Besides he has a girlfriend. If you don't try to let him go when you know he has someone else you're only gonna get heartbreak when he doesn't. If you have to find something to dislike aabout the boy. Don't hate him, but thing of the thing you dislike when he's around to prompt yourself to get over him. [ deviango's advice column | Ask deviango A Question ]
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