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my little sister doesnt respect me?
i have a little sister and shes year younger than me, sometimes we get along but there's this times were shes really rude and disrespectful to me like she calls me all kinds of names when i do something wrong and she acts like shes older than me, i try to talk to her about how shes acting but all she says is "i dont care" "whatever" and she refuse to listen to what i have to say. She's also disrespectful to my mom at times too, im very senstive and im too nice so i dont really know what to do and when i get mad at my sister im the one who end up getting in trouble, i ask my friend to talk to her for me but my friend says i should be the one to do it but i dont know how to deal with this she told me to be strong but i just dont know how..and she has something against me so if i argue with her she might tell my mom my secret any advice?
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i have the sameee exact thing going on here and my sister is 6 years younger i didnt know what to do at first but then what i did is try to find things about her.. any secrets or anything and if she doesn repect you just be like i have stuff on you so go ahead and tell mom because i know something about you it works perfect for me and hopefully for you too
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Respect isn't an automatic thing, especially not from a teenager.
Even if your sister really did respect you, it's understandable that as she grows and discovers herself and establishes her tastes and boundaries, she's going to be rude sometimes.
Talking to your Mom about this might be helpful.
But here are some key things to remember:
It's not your sisters job to always worry about you being sensitive. It's your job to decide when you are being too sensitive, and work on that, and when she has actually behaved in a way that is not okay, and talk to her about it.
It's not your job to stand up for your Mom. That's your Mom's job. Even if she is really bad at it, resist the urge to run to her defense. She's an adult. She can handle it, and if she doesn't know how, she has to learn. That's what it means to be Mom. Your job is to stand up for you.
Don't whine and complain. Don't wail “You DON'T respect me!”
That doesn't MEAN anything. That doesn't tell her what to do differently.
When you do talk to your sister, be VERY precise about what she did wrong. Don't be vague. And follow up with how it makes you feel and what you'd rather she do. Like this:
“Mary, when you cut me off it like that it really hurts my feelings. I'd really appreciate it if you'd let me finish what I was trying to say.”
That isn't a magic trick. It might not get what you want from her. But it is completely honest, and it shows her the kind of respect and honesty you want her to give you.
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