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he stopped talking to me, what can i do?
Hi,
i met this guy on facebook,i'm 39 hes 37, we chatted on line for a couple of weeks and he was txting me everyday, then we arranged to meet up(hes a photographer so offered to take my pics)he was charming and i got the impresion he really liked me. the next day he text me. in the evening my husband came home we wernt getting on to well he was shouting at me so i text this guy and arranged to go over there that night, we jumped straight in to bed but did'nt go all the way, he was texting me all the following week and we arranged to meet up again, the next time we met up we jumped straight in to bed with each other, he asked me if i was still sleeping with my husband and i said yes, after i felt he went cold on me making out he was on the phone to one of his friends and that they were coming round shortly so i said do you want me to leave he said no but he still seamed a little distant so i left, i messaged him on fb asking to meet up again and he said he was busy all week,i said is it because im still with my husband and he said no. i text him during the week asking him how he was and had no answer, so i text him are you not talking to me? he said he was just busy! well we arranged to meet up the following week(i was only going to get my photos but we ended up in bed again) then the same thing happened he did'nt text so i text him only to get i'm busy back so i deleted him from my facebook, but i couldent help liking him so i added him again, we arranged to meet up again, the night before we were surpose to meet he text me saying he couldent make it and could we meet the following day but i said no i was busy, then he kinda got funny so i deleted him again, but i still liked him so added him again. we finally aranged to meet up about 6 weeks later, i text him the day we were surpose to meet up and he said he had forgoten all about it and said he was ill and had been ill all week so i said i think your not that interested he said he did'nt say that and things would be different i wasent with my husband, so i got mad and deleted him again, i did'nt contact him for 3 weeks but couldent help to way i felt about him so i made contact with him again, i told him my husband and i had split, he messaged me about a week later some random txt saying hay its snowing and we kinda got txting again but only every few days, this went on for about 8 weeks then i sent him a friend request on fb and he excepted it, it was only a couple of days after that when he asked me to go over to his so i did (he said he didnt have long) we ended up in bed, after he asked me to stay but i said i couldent, then the same thing happened he didnt text but when i text him he replied, then after about a week i was getting that cold feeling again so i deleted him again,then afther a couple of hours i thought i like him so sent him a friend request with a message asking him to meet up again, he didn't reply, so my friend phoned him and he said i had to many male friends, then i went on fb to find he had sent me a message saying he just wanted to be friends i was deverstated and told him i was still with my husband,
i left it for a month and then messaged him again asking how he was, he replied, i keeped messaging him every few days and he replied this went on for a few weeks he never messaged me though, after a while i stoped messaging him,he never bothered to message me, then after about 8 weeks i bumped in to him in the swimming pool he said hello i ignored him and he said hello again so replied hello, i was with my husband and kids at the time, i left it for about 4 days then i told my husband i had slept with him. my husband messaged him and said he new what had been going on, the guy replied that he had been seeing me and that he had stopped talking to me because he suspected i was still with my husband but this guy new i was still with my husband i the beginig so i sent him a message telling him that he knew i was still with my husband and he just blocked me. so i sent him a txt calling him a lier and a user, and he said i'm the lier and cheater you rekon you cheated on your husband and to stop contacting him, i said you new i was with my husband in the begining and if that was a problem then you should have said you used me and good luck for the future, after a few weeks i went to buy a new car in the garage that he worked i ignored him and was flirting with another sales man, after a while he came over i didnt realize he was the manager he said to the salesman that he knew me for facebook and he sat down and made me fill out the form for the car, then he said that he didnt think my husband would want to deal with him so put us on to someone else, when i went in there again on my own he came over to me and told me he had cot the finance and that he had worked hard to get it for him, this wasent true! i dont undrestand why he bothered even coming over he didnt have to then every time i went in the garage he was watching me, now i'm really confused he hasent made any contact neither have i but i still like this guy what can i do?
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You really sound like a mess. How do you expect a guy to like you and you're married. First it seems like all you two do is, sleep togeather. Never once did you mentioned that you went out anywhere. You may not like what I have to say and personally I don't care. I really don't care to much about ratings. I tell people the truth weather you want to hear it or not. But you sound pathetic, You're in your thirtys and your talking as if you are in your teens. Going to face book meeting guys sleeping with them and you're a married woman with kids. What type of an example are you setting for your children. And lord forbid if you have a daughter. How can you expect a man to respect a married woman who sleeps around on her husband. You have no morals and very low standards.And any ladies that's reading this ,this is clearly the reason why some men don't respect woman. You odviously need some sort of mental help because you are really pathetic... And I personally don't have any sympathy for someone like you... I hope your husband and your wanna-be lover both leave your ass!
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Unfortunately, this is the kind of drama that so many people should want to avoid, especially if they are married.
One, the guy lost interest when you told him you still slept with your husband. Surely he felt that he should have known better to get too involved with a married woman, so he could have avoided that pain. Men tend to be insecure, and when they take the time to be interested in a woman, they want to know what's to come of that relationship, OR, they are just looking for some action. I can't say that about this guy because he actually distanced himself from you when he knew you were still sleeping with your husband.
The age factor plays a small factor in this as well. A woman at your age would surely be able to read the subtle signs of a man pushing away.
He is showing a desire to just move on and not deal with the back and forth thing with you.
And Lastly, the stress of cheating on your husband will eventually get to you, and imagine how your husband will feel now, knowing that you have cheated on him.
I hope you get on track with this and you don't let it bring you down. We all make mistakes and moving forward with another venue,other than who you meet on FB, will prove to be beneficial to you as well as your husband.
Good Luck to you!!
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Grow up, and the next great guy you meet, be honest with him.
You've lost this guy. He's trying to be polite, but he was barely interested in you in the first place. A guy who is really into you doesn't forget about you for weeks at a time. Once he was confronted with the depth or your lies to both him and your husband, he couldn't even imagine being friends with you anymore.
You're behavior would have destroyed almost all affection any sane man might have had for you. Unless he is absolutely nuts (and his silence implies he isn't) he's over you. His staring now is simply curiosity and resentment.
Get some counseling so you can learn to behave better in the future. You are far too old to behave with so little respect for the feelings of those around you. And get a divorce so you don't have to rely on lies when you meet someone you want to pursue something with.
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