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okay soo i've been dating this guy for alonnnng time for like over a year. and we broke up a few weeks ago. its annoying because we're one of those on and off couples...i guess if you can call it that like this is the 3rd time we've broken up. i think he has commitment issues...because his mom is cheating on his dad and they're getting a divorce...do you think that could be it? like i really really love this guy he's amazing and when we're together he treats me so well...i love him to death but i just hate going through the pain when break up...and like he always tells me "he loses the spark" as an excuse to why we break up but i think theres something about commitment issues that he's not telling me because whenever we hang out again after awhile after we break up (we give it like 2 months then try and hang out again as friends) he falls back in love with me and there we go again...so what do i do? (were both 17 btw)
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It could be commitment issues that he has due to his parents' relationship. It might not be something he's not telling you about. If it issues with committing, he probably doesn't even realise that he has those issues. You could try bringing it up to him and ask him if he thinks that you could be one of the problems in your on and off relationship.
It could also be that when you're dating, you spend too much time together or do things that you don't both find enjoyable. He loses the spark then a couple months later you hang out and he gains it back. That makes me think that he just gets bored of your relationship after a while.
You should try talking to him about that also to see if that could be why he's always 'losing the spark'.
In the future, if you decide to date again, make sure that you have a game plan and have the issues from last time resolved. Time alone doesn't fix problems in relationships. If something goes wrong and you break up and don't talk for a couple months, forgetting what happened isn't going to make it go away the next time around.
Try to invest your time together in things that you both enjoy and don't be afraid to be spontaneous and adventurous in the things you do. Those things will help keep the love alive and exciting so he won't lose the spark again.
Good luck,
Darby (:
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