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too scared to make the first move... but i need to initiate it!
19-female.
i've liked my best guy friend for like THREE yrs now .. crazy right??? it's just been such a complicated situation because he had a long time relationship with this girl so i didn't want to ruin that and tell him i had feelings for him. they're broken up now. he's actually tried getting with me. we were more touchy-feely if you want to call it that like a year ago. we would lay in a bed together and just cuddle and i would like rub his stomach and he would put his arm around my waist, it was very cute. he's also tried fingering me, but that was about two years ago and i didn't let him because i wasn't ready at that time. he's always giving me mixed signals though. we've never even kissed!! i think he tried to ONCE but i don't even know if we was going for that. basically we were on my bed and he was just sitting on it and i came and straddled him and put my arms around his neck and we were just flirting and we looked into each others eyes, and i think he was going to kiss me but i turned the other way and then i kissed his forehead .. stupid me!! now, we never spend alone time together we always end up seeing each other randomly with a group of people, which means that we don't have fun anymore :( i really want to go in for like a kiss. what if i pushed him against a wall and just looked at him and smiled, but then i would want him to actually make the move to kiss me. i dont know what to do!! i'm too scared to kiss him because what IF he doesn't want me to kiss him, and then our friendship would be awkward. how can i be flirty like i use to be? i think he's basically stopped flirting with me because i rejected him when he tried fingering me but i changed. what would you guys do?? is there something sexy i could do to get him excited and then i know he would make a move?
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First thing: guys are simple creatures. Basically from your story I already know two things; one this guy likes you, and two he isn't sure whether you like him. It is easy for men to feel that a girl is just flirting with them, either because we are far too specious, or because we have had experience with this before. Obviously this guy is into you because no guy lies in a bed with a girl and cuddles unless they have feelings for them, but he is unsure of your feelings. I'm guessing he feels that you have turned him down twice, and doesn't know whether you really like him or not. I think the solution to your problem is communication. Talk to him; let him know that you like him, and that you're ready to take the leap from friendship to more. I'm sure you will find that he is just as ready as you are to take that leap.
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if you like him. go for it. becouse he probly think you don't or interssred he probly forget ya. then make the moved. if he just want to be freinds then you know now he just one of thoes guys on a rebound. or just want be friends with bentiths. sorry bad spelling. anyhow life is short just go for it. sometims guy love it when girls make the frist moved. sorry about the spelling
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