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Iam tired ot my mom!
my mom treats me like iam a baby. I really like this guy named paul he goes to church and when I told him that I needed to think before I went out with him when he asked me out he said take all the time you need that right there shows that he is a good guy but I live with my mom and iam not about to live one my own becout iam learning disabled and I have mental health problems and plus I would probally blow all my moneh and wouldn't have any money to spend on bills so that is iam stuck liviving with my mom becouse iam not capable of living on my own so please don't tell me I can move out becouse I can't. So how can I convince my mom that he his a good guy without her having to meet him becouse the last time she met one of my boyfriends she embarrised me so bad and I jut don't know if I could go through that again.
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Your name is Edward isn't it?
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I feel for you. I really do. I think that because you have some learning disabilities and because you have some mental health problems, you are dependent on your mother for everything. And she probably overprotects you, even though you are not a baby, because this is the role she has had with you over the years.
I am afraid it will not get better for you unless you are able to learn to make some decisions on your own. I don't necessarily mean moving out just now....but learning that you are an important person who needs to make decisions about your own life. As I see it, the only way this will happen is if you get help from a counselor. It is not something you can do on your own. The skills about learning how to be your own self-advocate have to be learned. And you have to have someone to teach them to you. I am assuming that you are out of school. If you are still in school, you need to get to the school counselor as soon as possible. If you are out of school, you have a couple of choices. 1. Try to look up mental health clinic or help in your county or city government. They often will take you in for counseling, even if you don't have money. 2. If you don't know how to do this, you can call your pastor at church and ask about church counseling. They should be able to get help for you at the church. If they ask what it is about, tell them you are interested in learning how to become a little more independent, as you are getting older and don't know how. Ask for private counseling meetings with the pastor or someone he/she recommends at the church.
You need help. Please try to get some help. You will be miserable if you do not feel that you have any control over your own life. We all need to have SOME control over our own lives. It is a basic need of being human. Good luck.
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