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taking advantage of my niceness
okay so i have this friend and she is the biggest complainer ever..like thats all she does every day and shes always in a bad mood. and so a few days ago she just flipped out on me because of a harmless little joke (that ive said to her in the past and she laughed about it)..i even apologized but then she said something that just really pissed me off. we call each other sluts and stuff (just kidding of course) but she said "did you say that because you're jealous of me?" i seriously wanted to go off on her so bad but i didn't because i don't want to cause unnecesary drama my senior year of high school. it just pisses me off so much of the fact that she thinks i'm jealous of her..i love my own life and i have plenty self confidence, thanks. i hate to lose a friend, especially one that i used to be so close to but i seriously don't want to be close with someone thats always negative and makes me feel like shit all of the time. so my questions are, 1. do you think this is a good decision on my part? and 2. how do i slowly just drift away? we have classes together so i don't want to cut her off completely, i still wanna be nice but i don't wanna be close anymore. thanks everyone.
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Being close friends with someone can get to be a little tricky at times. The two of you may be experience some turbulence in your friendship for any number of reasons. You could be drifting apart naturally as people do, or you could be dealing with attitudes from your friends related to stress. Either way, you are doing the right thing by taking time out to examine the situation rather than make a rash decision or saying things that cannot be reversed. It is very reasonable to want to maintain an environment that is stress free and if your friend is disturbing your balance, there are a few things that you can try. Try talking calmly to see if some issues can be cleared up so that the tension is eased. If this does not work, or you are positive that drifting apart is what you really want to do then you are not wrong for wanting that. Since you have classes together, remain cordial and friendly but be careful not to do things to mislead this person. For example, if the two of you used to spend a lot of time together this will obviously change and you should spend your time doing other things with other people. You don't have to call your friend as much and they will eventually get the point. Rudeness isn't necessary, just do your own thing and you will naturally begin to talk less. If your friend asks what the problem is, then you can talk and tell them that you need your space and that it is nothing personal. Once you create some distance, it will become clear.
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