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How did I get HIV when we used a condom?!
About 7 months ago I was at my best guy friend's house and we were talking. One thing led to another and I ended up losing my virginity to him that night. I had never messed around with anyone before and so it was a big deal for me. He, on the other hand, had been with a few girls before and had been diagnosed with HIV a couple of years ago. I knew him when he was diagnosed and remember thinking it was really awful. It was pretty devastated at the time.
Anyway, when we had sex we used a condom so I wouldn't get HIV or AIDS and I wouldn't get pregnant. They were normal condoms--nothing ribbed or ultra thin.
Well, over the past few months I've been really sick and it was like I couldn't shake it. I didn't know what was up with me and so I ended up going to the doctor. He couldn't figure out what was wrong right away so they took some blood samples and decided to test for STDs since I had lost my virginity.
My doctor called me this morning and told me I need to come in so they can talk to me about my results. I practically had to beg him to tell me what was going on over the phone. He ended up saying that I needed to come in tomorrow if possible and asked if my partner (the guy I lost my virginity to) had HIV or AIDS. I told him yes but we used a condom and the doctor told me that I had contracted HIV and that I need to come in urgently so they can talk to me about it and figure out their plan of action in treatments.
Obviously I haven't seen my doctor yet and I plan on going on Wednesday to see him (today is Monday) but I can't figure out how I contracted HIV from my best guy friend if we used a condom! I made double sure that the condom didn't break and our sex only lasted like 5 minutes because it did hurt to lose my virginity. I don't get it.
How did I get HIV? We used a condom, it didn't break, and we only had sex ONCE for 5 minutes! What happened?!
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Condoms don't always protect you, They could be ripped, expired, it could of broke or you didn't get lucky. If a doctor calls back after doing test than most of the time it is because something went wrong with the test and out of privacy of the patient the doctors are not supposed to give you that sort of information over the phone that is why he/she had asked you to come in person. Five minutes of sex is quick but it doesn't always mean you are safe. You're best option right now is to go and see the doctor in person.
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Unfortunately, nothing is perfect. Condoms provide very good protection, but not perfect protection.
Condoms are less effective if they are past expiry date, or stored incorrectly. Something that can easily be the case if the sex was unplanned...
It's also possible to get HIV from oral sex, especially if you engaged in that without protection.
So talk to your doctor, as I assume you did yesterday. I know it’s devastating and shocking, but HIV is no longer the death sentence it once was. People testing positive for HIV today can expect to live a normal life span, but you’ll need to adjust to what this means for your lifestyle, heath and relationships.
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