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my boyfriend is depressed/angry ALOT
its like part of his personalty.
if hes upset he goes off on a crazy rant on whatever is pissing him off and you cannot say or do anything to clam him down or make him happy. seriously nothing.
for instance-work.
he works with me and hates his job with a passion. heres the deal-i host/bus(make tips) and make a great deal of money(usually 70$ plus) compared to him-making exactly 40$ a night for busting his ass doing dishes and prep. our resteraunt is always busy so you have to rush to do everything-no matter what position you are. he usually has to hustle twice as hard as everyone else in the resteraunt. we work under the table by the way. everyone else makes a great deal more than he does. he knows this and he is totally over it yet he wants to have some money so he keeps the job.
today he was called in (he hates being called in no matter what) and had school all day so he was extra pissed.
no matter pisses him off he is livid about it and like i said i cant calm him down at all!
me and his mom are going to get him these vitamins=fish oil, vitamin B12 and a nerve tonic to help with anger and nerves.
i dont know what to do! he knows he has anger probs so its not like i can talk to him about it.
like okay i dont know what to do about today either-when he got called in like he was crying when we pulled up to work and cussing at all and when we were there i went in to get a drink at the bar and he came out saying he wanted to go home and all and then the boss was walking up so he kicked open the door back to the kitchen and yeah! i was like shit. then i was walking out to my cae to leave after dropping him off and he called me from the work phone bitching he wanted to leave.
he just called me again crying an hour later saying he is over it and yeah
shitty
any advice?
im like wtf
any is appreciated
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He's stressed out. Apparently he has alot to deal with. You have to be there for him if you care. Haha, have you noticed how many girls do that to their boyfriends? Guys do have the same emotions, some just hold it in better. In this case, he just can't control it. But just let him poor it all out to you and then after he is done and is calm then talk to him. Your being pretty a pretty good girlfriend for staying through all this. Good luck!
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Dont be "wtf" heres the thing that women need to know...Men Have feelings!! yes they are like women just not in a sexual way women. men have to deal tons of stress too, yes men dont menstruate in the same way women do. I can understand why hes breaking down, its tough on him right now school, work, you career goals, i mean he is not growing younger and the world is not moving any slower which does make it any. I can clearly understand your concern i had a friend go through this..this is what helped me help him:
1. I let him vent it out
2. I kept quiet and let him talk
3. When i did talk i encouraged him on the good attributes he had in other words i never put him down, and always encouraged him and spoke positive.
4.I was a positive influence
5. started working out, joggin in the morning or when ever he could to help not only emotional to vent it out but also physicaly
6.talk, and listen then talk and listened again
7. Helped him whenever possible.
8. we also worked together and ironically i made more than him, i knew he was as good and even better than me so i recommended him as my replacment and i quit. I found another job that i ended up making even more money that what i use to make.
9.I let him in on my vitamin suppliments B12, chromiunm,Vitamin D, good ol H20 (water) and lots of walking
Im glad to say we are still friends and when his girlfriend wen through what he went through he did what i did for him and im glad to say they are both doing very good.
I hope this helps
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