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would usage of a dildo make it hurt less for a virgin later??

Question Posted Wednesday October 7 2009, 12:40 am


So I am thinking about having sex with my boyfriend and I am a virgin. I am kinda scared that it will hurt too much and I wont be able to enjoy it. I have heard that the reason it hurts is because of the fact that you are stretched when you have sex for the first time, so I was wondering if I was to use a dildo to masterbate. Would I hurt less later?? Thanks in advance for any responses they are much appreciated.

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sobeg answered Wednesday October 7 2009, 1:49 pm:
I am glad that you are thinking in having sex.
Why? well because hopefully you will think throughly before you take this big step. it is a big step. It will hurt you but it will hurt you even more if you later realize that maybe you should have thought about having sex a bit more. If you are a virgin I give you props theres nothing wrong with being a virgin it is the best experience in the world and so is taking the time to decide in losing it (having sex). You will be afraid and you should after all there will be a penis inside your vagina and your vagina is not use to having something of that texture, size and hard inside you. If you do decide to have sex make sure its for the right reason and that this person will not betray you MAKE sure he is not going to 1. hurt you 2. scare you 3. Never make fun of you 4. will always value you no matter if you do or do not have sex with him 5. will respect you 6. wont go braggin to his friends 7. will not be abusive 8. will understand you after having sex 9. will stop when it starts to hurt. 10. have told you the truth about his sexual experience in the past or recent 11. and tell you why does he need the sex? 12. explain to you what will he get out of this? 13. is he pressuring you to have sex? i know i know too many questions right? well you really need to be careful what might be very exciting to you in having sex might surprise you with dissapointment here are some of them. 1.It can/will hurt 2. you can/will bleed 3.
You wont/might not have an orgasm will have to do this in secret which might lead you to feel shamefull 5. You can get pregnant even if he does not climax/cum and even if he wears a condom (theres no guarantee even for adults) 6. youll have a lot to explain to your parents if you get caught and or pregnant. 7.he may not want to stop if you say it hurts. 8. you could get so nervous and so afraid that you can cause damage to your vulva or vagina. 9. you could get a STD (sexually transmitted disease . theres really alot to think about really. everyone makes it sound so simple and easy but if it was then why the fear? why the nervousness?. Also you could use a vibrator or dildo but you have to be extremeley careful not to hurt yourself you are still changing physically and you could do some harm to your body, the worst case scenerio is puncturing your vaginal wall which could/will lead to death so be very carefull. with that said NEVER INSERT OBJECTS into your vaginal unless they were design to do so ex: tampons. if you do or he uses a finger please be very hygeine be clean and nails must be trimmed or it can scratch and cut you and you do not want that. also you will need to keep the vibrator/dildo sanitized meaning it has to be and stay clean and dissefected before inserting into your vagina.
ihope this helps

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orphans answered Wednesday October 7 2009, 1:40 pm:
indeed you are right. My girlfriend was a virgin, but i fingered her, and bought her a sex toy. It stretches the opening, and so when a penis enters, it doesnt hurt as much. Also, you can control the speed, and pressure when you use a sex toy, so its reccomended :)

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