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Im 18/f and my ex boyfriend is 19/m i put a restraining order on him last year because he was threatening me and it was just horrible. Then somebody told me something happened to him so i was stupid and made the biggest mistake of my life and decided to IM him on AIM. Things were okay for like 3 months and we were hiding the fact that we were talking. The past several months have been horrible. More threatening and saying if i dont do something he's going to the cops and telling them that I broke the restraining order and how im going to jail etc. I dont want to get into trouble. over the past few months i spent the night at his mothers house and everything was okay again and we still had the restraining order just kept it hush hush. I honestly dont want anything to do with him now and i tell him to stop talking to me but he wont and keeps harassing me and i cant really do anything about it because i dont want to get into trouble and stuff. I cry every single night because its horrible I wish i never IM'd him in the first place. I cant go to the police and whenever i tell him to leave me alone he says he's going to kill me or he's going to go to the cops and tell them that im talking to him and things like that. It doesnt help that he lives right down the road from me and he knows when im home and when im not. He even stood in the middle of the road if i dont talk to him. I need any advice thats possible to make this stop. THANKS!
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You wont go to jail for contacting him. Your restraining order agianst him just can't really be enforced because you went agianst it.
Block him. Remove him. Stop going onto AIM if you must. Don't allow him to contact you anymore. If he does, no matter what he says, don't respond at all.
You can absolutely go to the cops. Just because you made a mistake doesn't mean you deserve to have your life threatened. They are still going to take you seriously, even if they can't enforce the restraining order the way they want too.
If he stands in the middle of the road agian. Call the cops.
Be COMPLETELY honest with the police about the mistake you made. You might get a bit of a talking too, but you WILL NOT go to jail for talking to someone you have a restraining order.
Don't speak to him anymore. Just call the cops next time. Be honest with the adults around you about your mistake, ask for forgiveness, understanding and help, and you will get HELP at the very least.
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