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Two familes....one relationship.
I live in a very small small town. Everyone knows everyone. My family is extremely well known as being church go-ers, wealthy, and for being sane. My dad's side owns three of the local feedyards. My mom's side runs the local hospital as nurses, and two doctors. There is family in town who is not so well liked. They have a baddd reputation for drugs and alcohol. They're a big family and they are all thought of in the same way. Recently one of their family members came back into town. He's now attending school with us. We've been talking some and I'm realizing that I like him. I know our families don't get along and I know that if I ever did date him my family would be disappointed. I feel like maybe I can change him. I took him to church the last two Wednesday nights and he enjoys it. He is not perfect at all, but I can't help who I like. I have a very squeaky clean reputation and I'm scared that by dating him it will be ruined. I don't know what to do because I really do like him. I wish I didn't, but I can't help this one. Please, I need advice on what to do.
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You are right, We can't help who we like.
Here is what you stated below; "I feel like maybe I can change him" The truth is you cannot change people, You can help someone improve but you can't completely change them they need to change themselves. You're parents might be disappointed if you are dating him because not only does his family has a bad reputation with drugs and alcohol, but in your parents eyes they might think they are or could become a bad influence to you. This is a selfish way to think, but they also could think about their reputation as well.
Despite the drugs and alcohol everyone is a human being and we all make mistakes, You can try to sit down with your parents and say something a long the lines as "Mom and Dad I have something I want to talk about I'm letting you know now that it might upset and anger you but.." Then you add what you'd like to say.
You also should ask yourself is this guy right for you? Will his bad habits become a bad influence? How are you going to handle the situation?
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