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my boyfriend of a year just broke up with me. he said that i deserve to have someone who's always around and he cant be because of college. so aka he just wants to be single.. i dont know what to do..
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I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
Best of luck! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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Well dont just automatically blame him and assume that he wants to be single, he might really care for you and feel sorry hes not there...
Im going to assume that he's already left for college... Have you gotten mad at him for not being around enough? Or have things just changed between you two since he moved out? Does he know that you want to keep your relationship strong even though you arent always together?
If you want to try getting back together with him, get in touch and make sure to tell him that you love him, and you feel just fine with him not always being around, make sure he knows how you feel. And if you do manage to repair the relationship, you have to make sure he knows you always love him and want to keep doing so even though he's not around. I couldnt blame him for being tempted by college girls if he wasnt feeling your love.
If he's really serious and just wants to move on, then thats just what you have to do too. It'll go like any other break up, really tough. and im sorry about that, i know it hurts.
just talk to him if you want, and Good luck! :)
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