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I love him but should we?
Heyy, well i have been with my BF for 2 years already. I love him to death and he loves me. Really, love cant even explain it.. and he wants to be my first. i love him and want him to be my first too, but im young. im 15 in january. andd i moved:( but see him every single week and we talk every single day for hourssss(: and i have never loved anything MORE in my life... ??
buttt i really dontt knowwww..
please helpp.. this is importantt..
XOXO ♥Jess
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You have a few options here. It's good that you want to be each other's firsts, but waiting a while won't hurt. If you're really in love, you'll be able to wait until you're both truly ready to have sex. You asking this questions tells in itself that you're not quite ready. When you are ready, you won't have these second, third, and fourth thoughts.
And just because you love him, doesn't mean you have sex. Just the same, just because you have sex doesn't mean it's some sort of proof of your love for him.
I really strongly advise that you wait for a few different reasons. First of all, if you guys are very happy and in love with each other right now, sex isn't necessary. It will only complicate the pure and strong love that you have for each other now. Few people have relationships last as long as yours has at your age. I promise you, if you have sex with him now, everything will be compromised. It will only cause problems at this point.
Secondly, having sex at your age isn't a good idea because your body is still developing. It's not healthy to have sex while your sex organs are still in the development stage. Plus, you have the issue of needing birth control. Condoms seem like they would work; but it's shocking how often they break or malfunction. And it only takes one time for a condom to get a hole in it or slip off to get you pregnant. You'd need to go on actual birth control which means you'd need to either talk to your mother about it or find a way to get to a clinic.
Lastly, you moved and even though you see him once a week, you probably don't see him as much as you used to. If you start having sex now, you'll have to struggle to balance your time hanging out and your time having sex. Since you only see each other once a week, you'll most likely start arguing often about how often you should have sex. You don't want to see him one time a week and just have sex then go home and see him the next week and just have sex then go home. You'll start feeling like you're using each other for just those purposes.
All in all, your best bet is to just wait. You have a good relationship now. There's no purpose in messing up something that is good and getting yourself into situations that could be easily avoided. If I were you, I would go on with the relationship and wait until you're truly ready to have sex before you do it. You'll know when you're ready. You won't have any doubts or second thoughts.
And, like I said before, just because you aren't each other's first right now, doesn't mean that you can't be in the future.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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