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Adding friends like it's a 'collection'
Well, I have paranoia issues... I don't mean to sound like a bitch when I say this or anything, but it bothers me. You know how some people add others on Myspace or Facebook? Well some of them add friends like it's some sort of competition, popularity contest, trophy case, or like it's a collection. You know what I mean? I can't stand it, and it seems like that's what my friend is doing. I want to have a SEPARATE life, with some things in my life that DON'T include her, or even relate to her. Could you imagine it being like having someone by your side 24/7? I want to have different interests than her, different friends, different activities I'm involved in, etc. Is that so weird or mean? I feel like her life is my whole life, duplicated. Its like she's stalking me. o__O It gets on my nerves though. I'm friends with people first, then she becomes friends with them. (I know you can have a variety of friends.) It just bothers me because sometimes she ends up 'stealing' my friends. I hate it. I want to have at least SOME different friends than her. Then she goes and adds them on Facebook or Myspace or whatever. The thing is, she doesn't even know them, barely knows them, doesn't talk to them, or just ONLY knows their NAME and that's all. This isn't with my friends only, it's with others. We're in high school, so would expect to meet new people but that's not the case right now. Can't I enjoy things without feeling stalked constantly? I've lost my feeling of being 'different' now. I'm sick of her adding my friends, or adding a crapload of people. I'm not sure if this IS the case, but it feels like she thinks having more friends, or more friends than me will make her better than me, or more popular. Is it not a coincedence that she has maybe, hmmm, 3/4 of mutual friends with me?! Examples on Facebok: Friend's status, she comments. Another friend's status, *she likes*, other friend's status, *she comments*, friend's photo *she comments*, etc etc etc!! I'm sick of seeing her basically EVERYWHERE. Again, I don't mean to sound rude, but I can't stand seeing her everywhere, feeling stalked, feeling like te 3rd wheel compared to her and my other friends that she's 'friends' with. On what she comments or likes, she barely knows them, talks to them, and stuff. That just bugs me. I at least know them more or something. Everyday, it's just MORE friends. MORE MUTUAL friends we share. How ca I not let this get to me? I'm sick and tired of her 'stealing' my friends, or feeling like she 'wins' them over, and they like her better. I'm tired of letting this get to me. and I'm also tired of feeling like I don't have a freakin separate life. What are some things that can make me think POSITIVE? Sorry if this seems ridiculous, but I need advice on how to cope with this.
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THAT SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME ! oh wow ! except, mine was a tad bit worse, she told me she wanted to "be me" hert exact words were... "how can I be you?" It was the freakiest thing ever.
Anyways, my biggest pet peeve is when people copy me. I can't stand it. So I know how you feel. She has a right to do whatever she wants but taking it overboard isn't an option. Yeah, on facebook and myspace it has turned into this whole competition thing with who has the most friends, and it's easier to become friends with people you hardly know or don't know at all through the internet and through these websites because you can see what people's lives are like by their statuses and likes and pictures, its easier to relate. So, in my opinion she just wants to be accepted and liked by alot of people. Yeah, maybe she admires you and wants to be like you and have your friends becaue she envies you.
Take it as a flattering gesture. If she's copying yuou constantly, yeah it's going to get on your nerves, but don't let it. be the bigger person. Think of it like you have a fan now haha. Like how famous people have those crazy stalker fans, its because she's jealous of you. She wants what you have. That means that you're a great person, which you seem to be, none of that sounded rude to me at all.
Also, your friends aren't going to be won over by her. They don't even know her. one comment or like on their status and pictures and stuff isn't going to make them dilike you, or like her more, it just won't happen. just keep talking to your friends and be who you are, and nothing will change. they'll just think she's creepy, to be honest.
The stalking part .. yeeeeah. I think you need to take some action here. if it's bothering you THIS MUCH and you cant let it go, hide things from her. there IS a setting on fcbk where you can make it as some people can only see certain things. You should try doing that. Or you could just remove her from your friends list for a while. Or you could talk to her about this ... communication is key. She's not going to stop, so either you deal with it and think of the positive things that someone is envious of you and likes you so much that they want to have what you have, or you can put an end to it, and talk to her nicely about it, just to see what it's all about.
good luck girl ! it sucks, I know. but just think, you have your own fan now :] hahaa. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
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