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Can't stop going out!
hi i'm kirstie/21
basically i just can't stop going out to clubs.. i am so addicted to it! i get drunk most of the time but sometimes i don't, i will just go out b/c i love it. i'm not addicted to alcohol what so ever, i can easily go without it. but i just can't stop going to clubs. its costing me so much money and i dont know what i can do! ive tried to stay in on a saturday night but i feel like im missing out on something!
i know theres more to life than clubs...but i really need to realise this properly! what can i do?
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The main problem is probably the people that you hang out with. If the people you hang out with go to clubs, you're going to want to go or you'll feel like you're missing out. If you hung out with people that liked to stay in and rent movies or go bowling or something cheaper, you would want to do those things, and if you didn't, you'd feel like you were missing out.
You need to think of it realistically. When you go to a club, what is that you're doing that is so much fun? Sure, it's fun to go out, but it can be equally as fun to do things that are cheaper or free. When you really think about it, I'm sure you can see that you aren't really doing things at the clubs that are so much fun that it's worth going broke over.
If I were you, I'd make some friends that like to do things other than go out to clubs. Going to see a movie, bowling, rollerskating, or hanging out at someone's house are typically much more affordable than partying at a club.
You can also have fun and have some of that party atmosphere at someone's house. The drinks are cheaper and it's just as fun because you know all the people that are there. As long as the volume is kept somewhat low, it's always fun to party a little bit at a friend's house.
You should also try to find hobbies that you enjoy doing solo. You can't always be with friends and party people. Sometimes it's good to enjoy hobbies alone. It can be really relaxing.
Find something creative that you like to do or that you always have wanted to do. Writing, painting, drawing, sculpting, photography, reading, playing an instrument, and sports are all good options.
I want to point out that photography can be extremely fun. You can go downtown and (secretly) snap pictures of people. You can get some really cool and beautiful shots if you go out on a busy evening and take pictures at random. Then you'll be out and about with people, without spending all of your money.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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Well it's good that you realize it's a problem, That's the first step.
Instead of going to a club on Saturdays why not stay home and watch a movie? Invite friends over make it a movie night. Do something that will take your mind off it, For one if you are going so much too the point where that is all you think about and it is costing you a good amount of money then maybe you are going a little too much. Make a schedule for yourself something you are going to do every weekend make it a goal, an accomplishment. Yes, There IS so much more to life than clubbing there are other things out there that are fun and cheap. I had a problem awhile back I was tight on money and I had no clue what to do to occupy myself before I knew it I was spending 10 bucks at a local bowling place just shooting pool with a friend and 10 dollars lastest us a good hour and it was cheap. Try doing things like going to the beach, renting a movie, going for a walk etc. Tell yourself that you are not going to waste your money on going to the clubs all the time and tell yourself why it is not a good idea like you said it's costing you money and clearly it's becoming a bad habit. Stay focus on other things you love to do and gradually that feeling should go away within time.
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