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Just 'not ready'
To start with, I have met a guy who I really like. At first we got along so well, he was always complimenting me and telling me he liked me. We've kissed but we haven't really gone any further. He told his best friend (who then told me) that he was going to ask me out. 2 weeks later and he still hasn't! I didn't mention it to him though, but the guy I like then said to me "I really like you, but i'm just not ready" and I said ready for what? And he said a relationship.
This always confuses me when I hear guys say this - yes I know it means what it says..but I just think what does he expect from me now, does he just want to be friends? Because if he wanted to just be friends then why does he keep texting/emailing me saying how much he likes me? And telling his friends that he really likes me. His best friend said that he ended his last relationship because he felt he was ready. I don't know what to do guys. </3
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Razhie said it well. But I'd like to add that his saying "just not ready" and his persistent texts/emails is also a tell tale sign that he's just interested in trying to hook up with you and nothing further. You need to get emotionally detached from that guy and start looking for someone who really wants to be with in a relationship. Trust me. You'll be better off.
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Lady Jade
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Don’t worry about what he wants.
The phrase “I’m just not ready” doesn’t just mean what it says, it also means he is just not that into you. Ignore the confusing texts, and trust me on this one: He's just not that into you.
It could be that he's just not into you enough to take the risk, it could be that he's just not into you enough let you into his personal life, it could be that he's just not into you enough to change his current lifestyle, it could be that he's just not that into you because he's struggling with his own identity, it could be that he's just not into you enough to handle pressure from his friends or family about a relationship...
Whatever his complex, personal reasons might be, he's just not into you enough to discuss them with you, or to want to address them.
When you realize that “not ready" is a poliete way of saying "I'm not into you enough to even discuss the reasons I'm not going to persue anything with you" you can free yourself from worrying about what he wants. He might want to hook up randomly with you and five other girls for all I know. I cannot read his mind. Neither can anyone else.
What IS important is what do you want with a guy who’s told you that he just isn't that into you.
Do you want to be friends?
Do you want to be friends that flirt?
Do you want to hook up with him?
Do you want to tell him to cool it with the 'liking you' because it confuses you?
Just do some real thinking about what kind of friendship you want with this guy, assuming that he’s not interested right now, and might not ever be. Figure out what kind of friendship with him will make you happy and confident, and let him speak up if that isn’t what he wants.
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