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i like my bestfriends sister
alright so im a guy and im 16. well my bestfriend and i have been tight since we were like 7, and its always been tough for him (and me) cos his sister is HOT. (she's 16 too, they're twins). and i mean ive always been attracted to her, but ive never made a move cuz shes like off limits ya know? anyway, i went over to his place the other day but he wasnt there and i kind of just ended up chilling with her. shes a really cool chick and since then weve hung out a few times but my buddy doesnt know about it... and i mean i think i really like her (i havent even put my hands on her yet) and i want to ask her out on a legit date but jesus, i do not want to deal with my friend. its pretty out of charachter for me to not fool around with a girl i like so i know that my friend is going to automatically assume that ive been on her if he hears that ive been hanging with her. so im really stuck now. any advice would be great, thanks.
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Alright its very simple. All you have to do is ask the girl out, and when you two are really dating, you both go and tell your friend. Maybe he might feel weird that his best friend is going out with his sister. But if both are you "tight" like you say, then i would say he wouldn't have a problem.
If he does then talk with him and everything. Don't let your friend hold you back. Ask the girl out and give it a chance. Maybe your friend might like that your going out with his sister. You may never know.
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It's up to her not her brother which boys she dates even if it's his friend. If it comes to romance and you both want to proceed let her be the one to handle any problems with him.
It's better she date you than some other guy as he knows your intentions. He might not like it and that's normal but will respect it as it's her choice and he has no say. You can't stop liking or loving someone and she can't either.
Here's where you must be careful. Don't ask her out right now. Why? Because all you have is a friendship and hanging out a few times. That doesn't mean anything or that she wants a relationship or date.
Wait and see what happens over the course of about a month. You have to make sure there's a connection there other than friends. She hasn't given you any such signal.
If you ask her out not knowing 100% that she's into that idea than you're a dead duck with both of them. She'll think you're hitting on her and he'll flip out.
Hang out with her more and invite her to join friends or tell her you enjoyed hanging out but never really paid any attention to who she was before you hung out. Develop a friendship and then ask her where things stand. Stay back right now and see if she makes moves first.
When it comes to her brother he would accept it over time and your friendship would continue. It has for decades. If it didn't than it was always on rocky ground to begin with. Let her be the one to set things in action. Besides, you need a friendship to have a relationship.
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