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I really thought I could handle myself. I didnt think I would resort to writing this to all of you here on advicenators. My dad found out from a source that he is going to be fired, not because of himself as a worker, because he is an excellent worker (he works in buisness in an office.) but his whole unit is being fired because of the economy, and companies cant offord to pay salaries anymore. Im a daughter in a family of 6, im 17, and Im American, and caucasian. It sounds minor, but its not. I feel horrible, my family feels horrible, my dad feels the worst of all. My mom has never had to work before because my dad provided, but a little while ago she got a job, thank god. But she only makes a quarter of what my dad makes. I just dont know what to do. It makes me sick to see my dad so upset, even though I know hes trying to hide it. I pray everyday he will keep his job, but it seems pretty final. I cry everyday and everynight.
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There is a lot of information missing from your question that would make it easier for me to offer you advice. Since the information is missing I will make some assumptions’ and if I am wrong in those assumptions please excuse me.
First; things are not as bad as they may appear to you. Generally when am employer closes a unit, as you say is the case with your dad, there is a severance package that is based on years of service. The package generally includes continuation of salary and insurance for a specified period of time. Next, your father will also be eligible for State unemployment benefits. While these benefits vary from State to State to State the generally extend for 26 weeks and because of the present economy many States are extending them beyond that point.
Financially things may not be as bad as they appear to you. Your father may feel bad for several reasons, most of all for losing his job through no fault of his own. I know how your father is feeling right now as I lost my job because of a disability resulting from an auto accident. I will never be able to return to a job a loved and it has taken a long time for me to come to terms with that. Your father has the prospect of re-employment. Yes, the job market is tight right know, but there are jobs out there for those who are willing and able to work, and have good employment records. From what you have written your father meets all those conditions.
Now what can you do to help? You can start by helping your mom around the house with the cooking cleaning, laundry as well as well as caring for your younger siblings. If you are still in High School, stay in school. If you have finished High School and were planning on going to College away from home consider attending a local Community College for the first year while your dad gets’ back on his feet.
Something’s are not always as bad as they first appear. Once everyone gets over the initial shock of things and can think clearly again, plans can be formulated to weather the problem. You said your father is a good worker; as such he is also a good thinker and planner. Your job now is to help him get over the initial shock of losing a job, a job he has probably held for some time and enjoys, so he can think clearly and make proper plans.
As I have said things may not be as bad as they appear to you so please cheer up. If you are cheerful others in your family will be cheerful which will also be helpful to your parents. Your job now is to be as helpful as you can around the house, stay in school and get good grades and try not to add to you parent worries.
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i know what you are going through
im 21 and me and my fiance live in our own apt and are 100% independent and had no problem paying the bills....
that was until I got laid off my job in March 2009
the DAY it happens, your dad needs to go to the unemplyment office, and apply for Unemployment benefits, that way he is still getting financial help while he looks for a new job.
i looked for a job for 8 months, applying to over 100 jobs so far, and never got ANY CALLBACKS>
it wasnt that my resume was undesirable, i HAVE an awesome work history.
but heres the thing. soooo many people are unemployed, that if a job becomes available, people scramble and jumop on it quick, and if 100 people apply to the same job as me, that cuts my chance of getting the job down to 1 of 100. or 1%
I never got a callback in 8 months, and I kept praying and keeping faith.
this week, i got three interviews!!! its so strange. the good lord must have known my unemployment benefits are about to run out,
keep faith, pray every day, and make sure your day starts his unemplyment application THE SAME DAY he gets fired. it wont be the same amount hes making now, but it should be enough for your family to get by. any money is better than no money.
email me if you need ANYTHING. support, a question, ANYTHING> Im here for you.
stephanie.ellick@gmail.com
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