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Is friendship for the best?
14/f
I have this very close guy friend of mine and for a little while we dated but it didn't work out. So now we're just super good friends. But lately things have gotten pretty serious and we've kissed and started showing affection towards each other even though were just friends. Just a couple of minutes ago we got off the phone from a seven hour talk into the early hours of the morning and honestly, I don't know what it is I want. I feel like we're meant to go out with each other because we share many of the same qualities and feel very strongly for each other. Although, the thing is, whenever I try picturing us together again I can never seem to see it working out or going well. I always see it as being awkward and painful like when we first began going out when we barely knew each other. Although I'm very hesitant about us dating there's one thing I know for sure: I love him and want only him. But there's just something about going out again that worries me. As friends, there's none of that stress that gets put on you when you're actually dating and forced to be commited. We're commited just fine as we are, but isn't dating the correct next step to further our relationship? Please, I know there's not much advice one can give for this but any would be greatly appreciated.
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well yeah you guys are totallt into each other, well you said the time you guys went out that you guys didnt know each other, well if you guys are friends well good friends you guys would know each other by now, everyone does deserve a second chance. i would say to try it out again, and deff try it again if you felt that magic when you guys kissed :] <3
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Well, you both are obviously in to eachother. Just because it didn't work out the first time doesn't mean it won't ever work out again. You probably don't picture you both together because it didn't work out the first time..and you're worried that the same thing will happen again, leading to heartbreak on both ends (meaning you and the guy). Honestly, I think it's worth a try! I mean, you even said yourself, you have a lot in common, and you're great friends. You talk for hours on the phone, so, you're obviously comfortable with eachother. Dont' be afraid of being hurt, it happens to everyone throughout life. Stop thinking it's going to be "awkward and painful" again. That's what is stopping you from wanting to move forward. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. I see no reason why it wouldn't work out if you guy's have an awesome friendship like you have. And, if it doesn't work out this time, then you will understand that you both are only meant as friends. However, you're 14! You're sooo young. You have many years ahead of you. But, I can understand how you feel. It is confusing being with a guy friend, and trying to establish an actual relationship..meanwhile trying to maintain a friendship with him also. And, yes, the way to "move forward" is to date. My advice: Just try it! But, only if you feel comfortable enough to be with him.
Good luck! :)
Hope I helped you.
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