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i dont really get what the whole point of it was...
alyssa = ex best friend
vicky = present best friend
miguel = ex boyfriend
alyssa and miguel used to date back when she and i were best friends. vicky has never really liked him, alyssa and miguel had a really messy breakup, (2-3 years ago) havent talked at all since. alyssa and i quit being friends about 2 years ago. we were enemies at first, but now we're just civil towards one another.
(now, onto the question)
about 2 weeks ago, miguel and i broke up after 6 1/2months. then about a week later, we started hanging out again, and now we're friends, i guess. we're not dating, but we talk almost everyday and we hang out a few times a week and its real fun. just like old times.
vicky still isnt too fond of him. in fact, she hates him. but shes been a little sore about me and him hanging out, and ive tried my best to ignore it, until last night; i was out of town, visiting some old friends. my phone was about to die, so i left it in the car all night. when i went to go get it later, i had 3 texts. 1 from alyssa, 1 one vicky, and 1 from miguel. heres what they all said, in order:
miguel: i burned my friggin hand at patricks today. >.<"
vicky: alyssa just texted me and asked me why you and miguel broke up.
alyssa: you can do WAY better than miguel if hes gonna run to me and tell me that you two broke up.
now, i dont really know the whole story. frankly, i dont really care. but alyssa only told me that miguel told her that he and i broke up. which,...you know. SO WHAT?? vicky was all "HES TALKING TO VICKY ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL PROBLEMS. NO, IM NOT SAYING YOU HAVE TO BE MAD. JESUS, I WAS JUST TRYING TO BE A GOOD FRIEND BUT FUCK IT." alyssa didnt say anything about personal problems. no one did, only vicky. and i asked them both what those "problems" were and alyssa never responded and vicky kept fighting me saying that miguel is a douche and i dont deserve this shit and im like "i dont care"
the way i see it is, miguel and i, we're not committed anymore. we were a while back, but not anymore. he can talk to whomever he wants. he can say whatever he wants. im not making a big deal about this because in my eyes, its not a big deal. its stupid. and im officially sick of vicky always ragging on miguel just because he and i didnt work out as a couple. but he has told me many times that he regrets breaking up with me, and hes being nice to me right now. would he be inviting me over everyday and calling me all the time if he was lying about that? i have no idea what alyssa has to do with any of this. i dont even know why miguel would talk to her. i do want to ask him about that, but first i need answers:
im not planning on talking to vicky or alyssa. im not texting either of them. i dont care. but can someone try to get into the head of them and maybe tell me what the hell they were thinking? like, why they thought i might want to know that miguel told alyssa he and i broke up, and why they thought i might actually care? and also, how do i bring up this topic to miguel? what exactly do i ask him? considering im not mad, but he COULD have done something dickheaded, what do i do??
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how was your and miguels relationship? what are the reasons why vicky doesn't like him? think about those. i mean, i went through something similar to this a few times, being in your shoes, & vickys.
in your shoes:
i had this boyfriend, who for the most part, was pretty cool, but sometimes he would be just such an ass to me & of course since i was mad, i would go run to my best friend & tell her all about what an ass he was being. he wasn't an ass frequently or anything, but the only time i really had a long going conversation about him, was when i was really angry. .. have you ever done that? maybe vicky only knows the ass side of him the best. you know what i'm saying?
& ok say that's not the scenario. lets say, you talked to vicky about the good and bad times with miguel, well sometimes.. friends do see things, better then you do. sometimes when your in relationships, you see things through rose colored glasses. you see how nice he can be, & how cute he is, & how fun he is.. & when he does dickish stuff you just forgive him, because you don't sometimes see things clearly.
that could also be it.
or the last scenario:
maybe shes just jealous. do you hang out & talk to him way more then you ever talk to her? it kind of seems like you are right now, how you say you talk to him every day & hang out with him a lot, is she ever included? do you ever do group stuff?
i can't answer these questions for you, you need to figure it out yourself. BUT, don't jump to the whole jealous thing right away, its usually not always the case. think about the first too, really analyze it. & then go to the third scenario.
and as for alyssa:
i bet shes just some bitch who wants to fuck up any relationship you have with this guy, because maybe she wants him back, or maybe shes just evil. girls can be huge bitches sometimes.
i would just ignore her completely.
hope everything works out.
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