A couple months ago my friend's brother was just kidding around and gave one of his friends my number and told him to talk to me cause I'm cool/funny or something, well his friend actually did. And since then, we've basically texted eachother every day, all day long. The only time we don't tetxt is whenever I'm either working or one of us is hanging with a friend ( sometimes we even text then anyways ).
Well during this couple month span, I've talked to him in person a couple times, but there's always been my friends there with me seeing as I don't drive, so I've never been able to be alone with him. But over the time we've been talking, I'm grown to really like him, we have the same kind of humor and morals and things and I feel very comfortable around him. I see signs that he may like me, but seeing as I've only seen him a couple times for real, I don't really know how he acts around other girls or anything, so I'm not too sure if this is just how he normally is or what. Whenever I imagine what it'd be like if we were to hang out together alone, I'd think we'd have a really good time and be laughing really hard, and I could definetely see something happening between us, but that could just be hopeful thinking. :/
Another issue would be the fact that I am 18 and he is a couple years younger than me. It's not so much an issue for me, but I don't know if it might be for him, which may cause him to think I may not want to date him cause he's too young, or what. I'm just trying to figure out what to do, cause I'm going to try and hang out with him more ( but like I said with the way things work, there's always friends around ) because I cannot just say that I like him because I can't really risk it because we're not obviously REALLY REALLY good friends so we could just remain close so I'm worried we might stop speaking if I say something.
I guess I'm just asking for ways I can hint that I like him without being too obvious. Or any advice anyone can give, really.
Additional info, added Thursday July 23 2009, 2:14 am: Oh, and I forgot to mention he obviously says very flirty things alot ( so it didn't sound like we just talk like a friend would talk ). And I gave him a hug the last time we saw eachother and his friend texted me being like "He was annoying me today he wouldn't stop talking about how you gave him a hug. I wanted to punch him in the face haha" I realized later I should've asked "why" or something, but I was stupid and I just made a small little comment kidding around about how nice of a friend he was.. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? JustJessOx answered Wednesday July 22 2009, 9:53 am: hey there,
okay I see where your coming from and this is always a tough situation trying to figure out whether to risk it and put yourself out there and say you like him theres always the fear of rejection. but thats something we all have to come to terms with and face eventually!
so id advice you if you really like him first give off subtle signs like be really flirty see if he picks up on it,maybe ask him does he wanna hang out someday?how are you going to find out if anything can happen otherwise? text him and be like oh theres this new movie im dying to see or something and see if he says oh me too we should go,or maybe just ask him does he want to go.
I know all this is scary sometimes but honestly its better then sitting around torturing yourself trying to figure out if he feels the same isnt it?
maybe ask one of his friends do you think that (insert his name here) might like you..or is this how he acts with all girls?..
in my opinion the age doesnt make much of a difference,like think about it when your 20 and 24 it doesnt matter,yet when your say 16 and 20 its frowned upon.
as long as its not a huge age gap id say forget about it and go for it :)
worst that can happen is that he doesnt feel the same but if he likes you so much as a friend to text you all the time then honestly things should be fine itl be a little awkward for a while (trust be been there,on both sides!) but it does go back to normal i promise you and if it doesnt its his loss and he wasnt worth it in the first place =)
Hope I helped in anyway and good luck!
much <3
Jess [ JustJessOx's advice column | Ask JustJessOx A Question ]
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