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boyfriend problem
I have a boyfriend for 4years and 4months now.. we are deeply in love with each other, and yeas we are old enough to know what love is.. Anyways, lately my boyfriend and I havent really been hanging out or talking to each other much becoz he is always busy, he works and after work he goes straight to his aunt house(which is across the street fum where he works) hes been going there because they been having family problems and want to start going back to church...Anyways, since then we havent really spend time with each other because his always busy with work and his family...I love him so much, and I dont wanna lose him, but when im not with him I get really depressed and stressed out becoz we dont spend time with each other..I dont know how to deal with this. I talked to him about this and he said that for now we gotta make sacrifies...I dont know if im being selfish or I dont know what to do. I want him to make more time for me but at this moment it seems like its not gunah happen. I dont wanna keep stressing becoz its not good...someone help!!
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For now, I think you have to do exactly what he suggested. It's time for both of you to sacrifice spending time together. It is a sacrifice and he's admitted that. But it shouldn't take long for them to get into a church that they like and to start leveling things out. A few weeks tops. If it's taken longer than that, I don't know what the family issue could be, but that's a bit much I'd say.
I understand that you're feeling lonely because you're so accustomed to spending your time with him. But if you badger him about spending more time with you, it will only push him away. Really, in this case, it's going to take more sacrifice from you than from him. He's got his things to do and people to be with and you're just left alone for a while so they can figure things out. But it's something you've gotta do to be a good girlfriend. You have to be understanding and willing to step back and let them work things out.
In the meantime, try texting or calling your boyfriend often to make sure things are going well and just to talk to him in general. Tell him that you want to hang out, even if it's just for a couple hours as soon as he can so he'll know that you miss him. You should also try spending some quality time with your other friends or your family. It will give a chance to bond with the people you normally don't have all the time for.
If this continues to an unreasonable amount of time, like months, talk to your boyfriend again. Tell him that you love him but that at some point, he needs to make sacrifices for you too.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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