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In love with best friend
14 year old Male
So ok. There's this girl that I like a lot. I think I'm in love with her. She's all I ever think about; I even dream about her. She's like my best friend. We tell each other EVERYTHING. I've known her for three years now (we went to the same middle school, and now the same high school), and it was practically love at first sight. Oh and the other day she said i could be her savior. :)
Each time that I was about to tell her how i felt, I'd get a case of the nerves and decide not to. Each time this happened (twice), she ended up being taken within the next week.
As of now she's taken, and I like her, and so does another guy, and I don't know what to do. I told her once but didn't really ask her out and now I'm beating myself up about that. Please Please Please help. She's the most amazing person i've ever met and I love her.
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Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you.
Okay, so the biggest thing that I tell people your age--have patience. It's a lot easier said than done, I know; I've been there.
You've told her once that you have feelings for her; I promise she won't forget. Most likely she is unsure of her own or is afraid of messing up your friendship.
Since she already has a boyfriend, now is not a good time to approach her. It's not fair to her or her current boyfriend. The best you can do right now is be a supportive friend.
Have trust and patience. If she has feelings for you, they'll come out eventually. Since you said that each time you wanted to ask her out, she was taken within the week, I assume she doesn't have really long term relationships. Your best bet, as horrible as it sounds, is to wait to date her until she's ready for a mature relationship.
Good luck and much love.
~TD
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If you feel this strongly about her, then you have to give it a shot. What if you never tell her and then years later you regret it and kick yourself for not trying? You'll always wonder "what if?" and that sucks :[
She's taken now, I understand that, but maybe if you tell her she'll be really happy and not even want to be with the guy. Do you think she sees you as just a friend or do you think she might see you as more? Think about what she does when you hang out, does she flirt? touch you? She might be waiting for YOU to make the move. Tell her you have feelings for her, but don't want to mess things up for her or your friendship if she doesn't feel the same. You gotta go for it if you truly love her.
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