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I'm pregnant but not by my boyfriend
This might be long, sorry.
I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 years now. He's really a great guy, comes from a wonderful family, works really hard in college, etc. He's probably the best guy out there. He's really perfect. I don't have anything bad at all to say about him.
Well, I've been cheating on my boyfriend for about a year or year and a half now. All the cheating has been with the same guy so I'm not like a whore or something. My boyfriend has NO idea that I've been seeing this other guy on the side.
Anyway, the problem is that I'm pregnant. I don't want to lose my boyfriend though!
Now, maybe you are asking, "Well, how do you KNOW it isn't your boyfriend's baby? Why not wait until you give birth and then have the baby paternity tested?" Well, because my boyfriend and I had decided to stay virgins until our wedding night. Yeah, in three years we haven't had any sort of sexual relationship. Yes, he thinks I'm a virgin just like him.
I REALLY love my boyfriend though! I want to marry him! I mean, I just feel like I'm totally in the wrong, but I know I'm not. If I tell him about cheating on him and stuff he's going to think I'm a whore. How can I like feel better about this?
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It won't happen.
In three or four months, when he's figured it out, he will dump you. With good reason.
There is absolutely no hope of saving this or marrying him. Obviously, his principles are important to him, and obviously they are not important to you.
How can you feel better about this? You can't. What you did is a terrible betrayal of trust. A year or a year and a half? Seriously?
As soon as he finds out, he will dump you.
Here is a life lesson. You are a selfish asshole. Completely utterly selfish. The last question was "how can I feel better about this?"
Really? You want to know how to feel better about this? Here's how. You break up with him. You decide to abort the kid or give the kid up for adoption (because you are not fit to be a mother in any way, shape, or form) and you learn the lesson that what you did is inexcusable.
And you need to learn it fast. "I feel like I'm totally in the wrong, but I know I'm not"
Yes you are! There is no more "in the wrong" than you are! You are 100% at fault, everything that's happening now is your sole responsibility, because of your choices and your choices alone. It's not humanly possible to be more wrong than you are right now without having a psychopathic personality.
From here, you resolve yourself to never let yourself be that shitty of a person to anyone again. You recognize your ability to be completely self centered and how badly you can fuck up your life because of it, and you make positive changes so that you never do what you just did to anyone, ever again.
Anything less will make you a truly horrible person, and will make you continue to be a truly horrible person who ruins her own and others lives.
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