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I dont get it.
My mom's boyfriend is making me explode in anger. I just don't get him. But I think he is just being a fake person to us. It feels like he criticize me but I don't think that I do anything wrong. And when I think of how he criticize me I just have an excuse and I say to myself it really isn't me what ever it is that he criticize about. But with that I am not being a fake person. But I have not told many people in my family how I feel about him and the reason for that is cause I am afraid to say. But when he acts annoying to me I feel like its controlive of him.
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There are lots of people who do not like their parents' girl/boyfriends. This isn't really an uncommon thing, it's just how the world works and there's usually a decent reason for it too.
There are a few ways you could go about this... and I'm going to tell you them all, even though some are better than others.
There's the childish approach... which sometimes works. When he criticizes you, just straight up tell him you don't care what he thinks because he's not your dad. This gets to adults who are trying to woo your parent. I'm not sure why... probably because they'd like you to accept them, as that would make it easier to get to your mother.
There is the more mature approach... talk to your mother about it. She IS your mother. She should listen. If she tries to justify him or tries to avoid the issue, tell her that this is how you feel and you need her to understand that.
The last approach is good if you're too chicken to tell him off or your mother doesn't listen. I assume you're in junior high or high school. Tell your counselor or dean or some teacher that you feel victimized by your mother's boyfriend when you are at home. This approach is good because your mother HAS to listen to the school and then she'll address why you didn't come to her, or if you did why you told someone at school too.
Be careful which one you choose. You should try the first two first, depending on comfort level. I recommend talking to your mom AND telling him you don't care what he thinks of you. You have to establish that you're not a child, especially not HIS child. You have the right to do so.
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