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enlightened point of view
This is not a question about teen angst and a crush that I have.
It is a question however about a guy (cant exactly call him a man yet) and me. I'm 18, have read a couple of your answers though of course not all of them, and think you can provide some good insight into my situation. I'm sure you probably have a life so I'll get on with my story and try to make it short.
Recently I met this guy that is from my point of view somebody I would never consider actually having a relationship with. He's exactly what I swore off about 3 or 4 relationships ago... and I definitely know better. He's never had a relationship that's longer than 3 months, thinks all women are secretly perverse sluts, and that nobody is worth it. And he doesn't fall in love.
So me, recently newly single, decided he would be the perfect guy to have some fun with, nothing serious. However, something about him has now gotten my attention. I'm not sure what it is really, and that seems to be my problem. Because if I was just in this for the fun of it...which I've hinted to him already, then it wouldn't bother me that I was confirming his theory about women. But for some odd reason it does. I do not like this guy there is nothing he can offer me (emotionally speaking) so why is it that I cant bring myself to treat this as all it ever could be...a fling. And what is your honest opinion about this situation... I would really appreciate some advice... thanks =)
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The easiest (and probably correct) answer is to walk.
If a casual relationship turns more than casual, its over. All you're going to do is get yourself into more drama.
That being said, I honestly don't know you anywhere near well enough to make an honest judgement.
Ideas?
- You've got a basic gut level dislike of being treated like a sex object
- You feel like you're more attracted to him than he is to you, causing resentment.
- You have issues with needing affection and needing it from guys like this whom you should ignore.
Could be one, none, or all three. I've got no idea. Though I can say that girls who find themselves attracted to and dating guys like this usually have issues with self esteem. Theres a girl I've been friends with almost a year now who's got this issue. She dates guys who look good but are otherwise worthless, because she is attractive but otherwise feels worthless.
She keeps getting (and currently is) trapped into relationships with idiots who treat her like shit and make up for it by giving her doses of the affection and "love" she's addicted to.
Does that sound like you? Do you date guys who are pretty worthless except for appearance and confidence in themselves? Does being alone scare you? If so, be single for a while (and celibate, invest in a vibrator if you have to) and work on your life outside of relationships, who and what you want to be and do and what you want to be doing now. Spend some more time figuring yourself out before you enter the dating realm again maybe.
Best insights I have for now.
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