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guessing
how do you constantly keep someone guessing? because then whats the point of getting to know someone if you're trying to keep them guessing... i just dont get this whole mystery thing...
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I personally think that 'keeping someone guessing' means not spilling your life story within the first couple days that you know them. If you don't tell the person every single event in your life from the time you were 3 and your goldfish died to the current time, they'll be more interesting in figuring you out.
Being 'mysterious' is pretty much about giving a vague piece of information and leaving at just that for a while. Of course that doesn't mean saying, "When I was three something happened with a pet but I'm not telling you what." The entire thing has to be somewhat vague.
If you tell something very detailed that doesn't seem of importance to most people but is important to you, it will show different layers of your personality and keep the person 'guessing', as they say.
Darby(:
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I've always interpreted "keeping them guessing" as simply maintaining a level of spontaneity in your relationship. Like, it's freaky/weird to change something like your personality every day, but going on different dates is awesome. It keeps things from getting boring.
Plus, you can keep someone guessing, in a sense, as they realize that there's more to you than meets the eye. For example, a big tough guy having a soft spot for puppies. Or a "party girl" being valedictorian of her class. Things like that.
-LM
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