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cant stop thinking about him
Ok, me and my ex have been broken up for 4 months. we went out for about a year and a half. I dont know what to do. I cant stop thinking about him and i really miss him. The thing is hes changed alot and everyone says hes cocky and a jerk now. But i still miss him and everything we used to do. He was my BEST friend. Its kinda like there wasnt a second we werent together. Now ive done pretty good in not seeming pathetic and stuff but theres days that i just get all worked up and cant stop thinking of him. For example, i was doing pretty good keeping my mind clear of him but then he texted me and asked me how i was and all this stuff. Then i asked him why he requested this boy i went on a date after him to be his friend on the computer and he went off! saying that he wanted to see how big of a tool this kid was and how hes so gay and then went on to say that he wasnt trying to get me back at all and how we broke up four months ago and all this stuff. I JUST DONT GET IT! how the heck do you get over someone because i know hes not the best for me and i just dont want to be hurt anymore. And im really really scared for when he gets a new girlfriend how much that will kill me. :/ please help if you have any hints or secrets because im tired of feeling self consious and weak.
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1.Hang out with friends. Don't sit at home and mourn. Call friends or go hang out with them. It will show him that you're strong and it'll get your mind off him.
2.Enlist the help of others. Turn to a trustworthy friend that knows how to keep a secret. Letting your feelings out to someone gets rid of extra stress and emotion. This person can make you feel better.
3.Think of some negatives in your relationship. See what went wrong. Focus on the good, but also remember why you might have broken up. You may see that he may not have been that great.
4.Clear everything out of your life that reminds you of him. Pictures, songs, clothing articles, other personal items; everything must go.
5.Commit completely to getting over him. If you allow yourself to have doubts, or be weak, it will drag on and on. Repeat over and over to yourself; I don't need him.
5.Get out and meet people. If possible, try to meet another special someone. Having a new guy in your life is the best way to forget about someone. Not only will they keep you busy, they'll put in your mind all the good things your ex never did, or the bad things your ex did but your new boyfriend doesn't.
6.Hang out with your girlfriends as much as possible. They'll help you get through it, listen to you rant, keep your mind off things, and eat ice cream with you. Plus, you'll remember how much you like them all, and how fun they are.
7.Write 20 or more of your good qualities and keep reading them over and over, adding as you think of some. It's important to remember that you are a beautiful, amazing person and you will find love again.
8.Let time pass. The more it goes, the easier it will get. Time does heal all.
Remember, there's a reason why he's out of your life. Be free!
So keep those 8 things in mind if you will.
Don't forget that time will heal, even if it takes a while. You will never be able to pluck away every bit of him from your memory, he will always be there.
It is really tough to get over someone, especially when you were with him for a such a long periosd of time like you were, and you spent so much time together. But if he is acting like he is acting, then it sounds like you need to end contact with him instead of listening to him saying things like what he was saying, it only makes it hurt more. You shouldn't allow him to hurt you like that.
Hope this helps
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