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My best friends break up and the bisexual guy
Im worried for my best friend because i dont know what advice to give her! My friend went out with her boyfriend for 5 months, they were friends for long time before that. They were great together, but he was so quiet, anti social. She'd put so much effort, and he never did, she had to make his choices for her, she had to decide what they'd do. She never got much affection. We went to a party with him and he just sat there, and did say anything. She didnt get a hello when we met him, and she never got a hug or a kiss. And its like that a lot with him.
Everyone was laughing saying omg, he never speaks and my friend felt unfortbale - embarrased because they were right. She loves him so much, and I know he loves her, but he never gave her anything. I said to her to take a break, and see if he really cares - if he reallly does like her, just see what happens, because she wasn't happy. Instead, she broke up with him and cried for ages and ages. She told him why she thought it was over, and its only now he's sort of showed the affection and telling her he's so down about it, and how much he loves her. Maybe it's opened his eyes open a bit more I dont know
Then, we met this guy who is so nice. We've known him for about a week, but it feels LONG. And I know we'll see him all the time- he's good friends with OUR good friends. He's bisexual, but he told us he was going through more a BOY phase at the moment. He invited my friend round, and then he kissed her! She said that you lied to me, as that was never my intention to come over here and do that - especially as your more gay than straight!!! He's really cut up about it, because he likes her.
Then yesterday we went to a party and she kissed ANOTHER GUY. It's not like her at all. I said to her thats not the right way to get over your feelings. In fact, there isnt really a cure. She still loves her boyfriend, i know this. But she doenst know if it will work. She has kissed to different guys in 2 days and feels so dirty and down about it. She's confused because the gay guy she kissed, REALLY likes her..anndd i think because her BF never showed her any affection etc, and this really nice guy comes along and kisses her - she may like him. But i still think she likes her boyfriend and she should get back together with him because she loves him, and you CAN work at things.
I mean i dont know what to do or what advice to give her??
I also said not only hurt your bf by dumping him, you've also hurt a sweet guy who liked you so much
Should she go back to her BF, go out with the bi guy! whAT? I think she still loves her BF but because this bi guy has nice qualities she wants her BF to have she may THINK she likes him, but I dont know
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This is what I think I would do if I was your friend.
I think I would probably talk to her ex about how she felt like he wasn't showing her enough of what she wanted like affection and that he cared. She felt that he just sat there and she never knew what he was really thinking. She should tell him how she feels about him how she loves him or whatever, and she wants to give him another shot IF he is willing to try a little harder for her.
Since you say he was showing it a little more right after she ended it with him and that you think he has opened his eyes a little more, he probably would be willing to and probably wishes she would give him the second chance.
Meanwhile, I think she should also talk to the other guy. He may like her alot, and she may like him some too, which probably has alot to do with the fact that she thinks he can show her what she wanted to see in her boyfriend, or ex i mean.
But if her ex which she has already put 5 months effort into and they already have alot of care for one another, if he is willing to change a little then she should be good with just him.
But I do think she should talk to this other guy and let him know she kinda likes him, but she has a boyfriend of five months she cares about alot. She shouldn't completely forget about this guy because you never know what may happen with her and her boyfriend, and you never know, this other guy could be a great catch too.
She shouldn't just let it go because if things happened to not work out later with her and her boyfriend, she might regret it.
So she should ask this other guy if they can just maintain a friendship at this point, tell him not to give up hope but also not to get his hopes up too much.
Hope this helps a little
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