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same as before........
hey, me again, Chailey. thanks for the advice, and i really would like to tell my parents but....won't they be disappointed in me for getting into this situation? i CANNOT disappoint my dad. you don't know what he's like. he'll ignore me and if i try to talk directly to him he does that stupid thing where you put your fingers in your ears and sing LALALALALALALALA at the top of your lungs. he pretends i don't exist and eventually gets mom to do the same. that is, until they need a favor from me.
and won't my boyfriend be mad if i squeal on him? won't he feel betrayed? might that PUSH HIM to hurt me? or DUMP me? i really do love him, although you may be thinking to yourself "why? he's scum! he's an ass!" but he really isn't. he's really sweet. he got me a puppy for my birthday and i'd only told him i wanted a puppy my hole life once, about a year and a half before that. he just has a temper. he can forget himself very easily and uses other objects to release any pain or anger.
oh God, am I HURTING him by refusing to have sex with him? am i making him hurt inside? i don't want to hurt him, believe me.
i don't know what to do anymore. i just don't know what's right.
please, please, please, please help me!
Chailey
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I think you may be underestimating your parents and this situation. If everything you wrote is true and I have no reason to doubt you, then your boyfriend poses a serious danger to you when you deny him the sex he is demanding from you. To answer your question you are not hurting him by denying him sex, but he may hurt you. If you cannot talk to your parent is there another adult you trust; possibly an Aunt, Uncle or Grandparent.
From what you wrote your have written your boyfriend is well on his way to being an abusive spouse. The best thing you can do for him is to talk to your parent or other trusted adult and let them handle this. Your boyfriend may not have hurt you yet and maybe he will not hurt you, but what about his next girlfriend, she may not be so lucky. Yes he will have another girlfriend and you will have other boyfriends.
Now as to how will your boyfriend feel? The fact that you asked about him possibly hurting you, for as you say squealing, says to me you are afraid of him to some degree. If buy informing the proper people of what has happened results in your boyfriend getting the help he needs, he will eventually thank you.
This is not a loving relationship you are in it is an abusive relationship and one you are much safer out of. If there is not an adult you can talk to then I would suggest you call your local police department and speak to them. If you feel you might be more comfortable speaking with a female Officer than ask for one. The Police will understand and if a female Officer is on duty they will arrange for you two to meet.
From what you have written in your first letter and back up with statements in this letter I feel you could be in danger and urge you to get out of this relationship. As I said in my first response to you NO means NO, do not let anyone coerce you into doing anything you are not prepared to do or ready for. Be that sex or anything else. If your boyfriend loved you as much as you say you love him he would respect your choices and back off when told to.
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