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how much should i talk to him
So to start I told my guy friend who I liked that I liked him, long story, it was awkward, but we're still friends, and we've barely, barely talked about the whole thing. And though we are friend we don't talk as much as I wish because I never know what to say and he's not a big conversation starter. But this past Friday I actually worked up the nerve to bbm (blackberry message for those of you who don't know) him for no reason just to talk, which is a big step up for me because I always feel like I need to have a reason to talk to guys I like because I'm paranoid and don't always know what to say I don't want to feel like I'm bothering them. The good thing is the conversation was way better than I expected, it wasn't the awkward convcersation I thought it would be and I could be wrong but it seemed like he was flirting a little. But anyway right now he's on a 2 week trip at a college and I'm planning on texting him again tomorrow after camp to ask how his trip is. But the problem is, I want to talk to him more and more, and get to the point where we talk daily or close to daily. And the conversation we had Friday wasn't too short, but it wasn't too long either, so I hope to have longer conversations. But me being paranoid isn't an easy thing to avoid. I don't want to feel like I'm bothering him or something but still want to start talking to him more and more, whether it's as friends or more than that. It's very possible that we may have classes together next year based on the schedules we chose but for all I know we can have none, and if that's to happen, I want to be able to talk to him a lot still. How often should I talk to him at first? What are some things I can say to ensure that I can keep the conversation going? How can I tell if he's getting annoyed by me (which he probably won't based on what his friends have said but I'm paranoid enough to think I'm an annoyance haha)? I just want to get to a point where we're talking more and more and I know I can't do it by sitting here hoping for it. I know I need to be more confident, but I just need some assurance about things.
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Okay ... Um it's always a bad step when you tell a friend you like him and it gets awkward.
Look if you want to speak to him badly because you want to be friends like before, than you should.
But if it's because you have feelings for him and you want to be close to him by being friends again and talking daily.
I don't think that's a good idea because he will hurt, imagine if he likes a girl and you guys grew closer, he is going to tell you and that will hurt you, and it's going to keep hurting you if he dates her. So i think if the reason you want to be close to him because you like him then that's not a good idea.
But if only because you like him as a friend, then you can start by saying something like if you have a problem, tell him the problem and say something "I couldn't think of anyone who would understand this kind of situation" so he would think that you need to talk to him.
Good Luck =]
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hi! well im just like you. no matter who i'm texting i feel like im annoying them and all kinds of stuff, so generally i text my friends maybe 3 times a week. maybe you could start by texting your guy friend maybe every other day and talk about things that you know interest him, but dont be random about it. if he's annoyed with you he might take a really long time to reply and when he does reply its just a 'yeah', 'ok', 'whatever' kind of thing. Since i dont know your friend that might not be the case and he might not ever be annoyed with you. just ask him if you feel you need to. Honestly, dont be so paranoid. if he's really a good friend he wont care if you bother him a little bit and if he does he'll get over it. hope i helped a little? :)x
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