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Dating: Finding a girl who likes me for me, and isn't so incredibly shallow
this may actually come off as a rant but here it goes.
im almost 19 now and ive only had 1 real gf. but she was only concerned about sex so i had to break it off with her because of that. then one girl just wanted to come down and kiss me and try to fool around with me. so ive never really had a gf thats actually cared for me other than a way to get what they want. ive always been the out cast in school so ive had to form this hardened exterior appearance that shows that im not to be made fun of. due to this and the long history of being ostracized i have problems opening up[. the only thing that seems to happen is that i get hurt. due to all of the problems i have, such as being fat and never being able to find someone that is willing to be with me for me i have had many close calls with suicide, it is a cheap way out but it seemed at the time the only way that i could find to think of a clear way to end the pain i was feeling. my bother seems to be the only one of us to have no problems finding someone who wants him. due to societys stress on physical appearance i cant seem to find a way to be happy. i have long hair, fat, im very self expressive, and do nothing but play video games. im not to good with words when it comes to the point in which i need to use them. there was one girl that i feel in love with at first sight. i asked her out and was shut down. so now im holed up again inside, does anyone now how i could possibly get out of this rut and find some kind of companion that would actually like me for me?
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I could write a dissertation to answer your question.
But, the cold hard fact is that you have absolutely nothing to offer the opposite sex. Personality doesn't count for shit when you're unattractive and do nothing but play video games.
I doubt you really have much of a personality. No offense, but if your world is being fat and video games and self pity, what is there for anyone else to want to get to know?
So, as you are now, you won't find anyone who meets any standards of normal, attractive, and semi sane who also wants you.
Get new hobbies. Lose weight. Cut your hair. Develop interests and goals and create some actual success at something in your life that others can understand, relate to, and admire.
If you want people to be interested in you, you must be a person worth being interested in. At this point, you are not. My answer is testament to that, I usually give out multi page essays and instead you're getting a few measly paragraphs.
It's because, at this point, you're doing nothing but wallowing in self pity. You aren't sitting here asking how to fix your life, you're asking how to find a way to be satisfied with who and what you are, how to find someone who will be satisfied with it too.
No one will be. You're not worth the investment. It's not a permanent condition unless you make it so, but if you make it so it won't ever go away.
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